I’m not perfect, and I’ve made my mistakes, including being in unhealthy relationships when I was younger. I’ve dealt with irresponsible partners, but nothing violent—because I love my face too much for that.
What I can’t understand, though, is why so many women stay in abusive relationships. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or mental abuse, there’s no valid reason to stick around for someone who disrespects you. Low self-esteem? Settling for a toxic partner because of a few perks like great sex or a fat bank account is tragic.
A violent, disrespectful person won’t change just because you love them. They don’t magically become better. People don’t change unless they choose to, and no amount of effort from you will make a difference. The scars from these kinds of relationships last a long time, longer than you may realize. Women often suffer from deeper depression, and before you know it, you’re too old or even worse, gone.
There is always a pattern of threats, little signs here and there, and she let it slide for too long. It eventually became “normal,” until it escalates to tragedy.
Too many of us stay in these unhealthy relationships out of laziness, or because we’ve been brainwashed into thinking we can’t live without a man. We settle, and we start believing that being mistreated is okay.
But that’s not okay. If you’re in an abusive relationship, you need to value yourself more. The various reasons don’t matter anymore. Breakups are tough, I get it, I’ve been there. But is staying in a toxic relationship worth losing your self worth or even your life? No. God has created so many good, respectful men. Choose to move on, get someone else who will treat you right.
Respect yourself enough to walk away from those who no longer bring out the best in you.
Be brave, choose to grow, and know that being single or a single mom is not a issue. Your peace matters make space for it.We only have this life.