Pills, Potions, Drug Abuse, Just Another Lame Excuse...

Voluntary Drug Abuse Decisions, Lead To Involuntary Addiction. Everything has  a 'first'.

It's all fun & games...

The choices of today shall reflect in your near future, so choose wisely! After her mother died of drug abuse - overdose, Bobbi Kristina - may her your soul rest in peace- followed suit in an unclear circumstances, unclear even to her loving dad. This is so sad, just when i thought, American world will solve most of these 'mysterious deaths' and mysterious overdose' crimes of drugs by the world famous artistes  and children. I hope we shall know what really went down in these both cases of beautiful black women. All in all, choices, have consequences...

It's all laughter, till your start drooling like a fool. Those in twenties and beyond let me give this to you straight; whether you are poor as a church mouse, or whether you're filthy rich, drugs do not give a damn about your situation, you can still die from dependency and overdosing. Even legal drugs like Aspirins can kill you when taken in large amounts, and if you don't die, they cause you nerve problems that will not really look good on you. 

People are addicted to Aspirin, Painkillers, Pot, Meth, Cocaine, Heroine, Kuber, Alcohol the cheap and the expensive... etc and among all these choices of drugs, you choose what you will afford, so Drug abuse, falls back to being your choice, since nobody puts a rifle on your head so that you can try them. Drugs will be all fun and games, til' you can't get away from them, so, your very first choice is what matters! 

...I am in this life too, i get it, life is hard and at some point we all feel like crap sometimes, we fell like giving up and jumping in the nearest lake and die..but hey, we don't, we chill on until that negative vibe dies away. Some people think that taking too much alcohol will solve their "i can't get laid" problems, but in reality, they end up looking more idiotic since alcohol has never solved a single problem. The solution Drugs offer are all illusions! 

...Young people y'all got to quit all this bullshit about being so lonely that you just had to inject yourself with heroine, you know most of us are depressed and we ain' bragging about it by buying expensive drugs, get broke then get more depressed, neither are we looking forward to it. So please put that excuse aside!

....Young pretty rich girls, when you tell us it was peer pressure that made you start sniffing cocaine, let me ask you, did your peers put a gun on your head? i don't think so. That's lame, stop blaming your friends for your bad choices and failure in life! Lets say your friends were using poop for face mask, would you have followed suit? well unless you're completely daft.

...Young fellow,so you smoke weed because your dad used to smoke in your home compound, okay, i get it too, we have seen people smoke as we grow in our hood, pint on cheap alcohol to death, but we have never been interested in creating the same history. Well, maybe we puffed once or twice, but since we want to be successful in life, we did not go further to plant the addiction.

...You come from a family of addiction? oh yeah? look at how many people came from poor backgrounds, do they still look poor? that's a lame excuse to want to continue taking drugs so that we can pity you when you're dying. Do you know how many people refuse to abuse drugs and hate drug abuse just because their father and uncles were all drug abusers? Check your self! Very many of us grew in such environment and we have CHOSEN not to live that same way. We have chosen to be responsible for ourselves.

...I heard some rich girls are injecting drugs because they are lonely... all alone in the big house somewhere in the suburbs... all right, girls, look here, some girls your age somewhere are praying to be left alone in a tiny room for peaces sake, are asking to have just a day into your life, away from fetching water at the stream five kilometers away.... to have the luxury you have. You Ungrateful ingrates, be grateful for what you have, otherwise you drown everything including your life, via the drugs side of life!

...Some take drugs because they were mistreated twenty years ago by a stepmother or father, let me tell you something, the abuser lives his/her live, their past actions punishes them slow as they age, karma leaves no prisoners. Instead of killing your own soul under drugs, strive to be someone different, aim to be greater than your abuser, most of us out here had the same problems when growing up, but you know what, it reaches a point that you start appreciating the positives in your beautiful life. Life begins when you start appreciating it, hating it drives in problems.

I understand very well, that as young people, we love to rationalize every bad decision we make, just to make it good enough to fit into our situation, which includes shoving pills down our throats because our boyfriend left! just to get some attention!

I can promise you that, with drug abuse, your life will always be stagnant then tilt backwards and finish you off. Its never worth the injections for an hours "happy feeling" that you wan't have control over once hooked.

•This is not the time to blame your parents, your uncles, the movies, your friends... after you're twenty years into this world, you're responsible for yourself, the hard choices you will make will ride you through your twenties...you can only stay conscious enough to know what is going on, otherwise, the future shall leave you behind as you blame everything under the sun for your bad behavior.

•Guys that just stepped into the twenties, slow down, becoming the "drug king' wont make you look cool, you only look cool the first two days, after that you start looking foolish and feeling foolish and it becomes foolery that you just can't just stop! So abort your mission to sniff and inject that so 'not-worthwhile' substance

...And hey we're all poor here in something or even everything and we ain' dealing drugs at all , because we are grateful for what we have as we wait for what is coming next. Many of us are purely living in denial, when you know very well that your being a pot head causes you not to get a job you really want, why not just stop and follow a dream? build  a future while your bones are still straight? There's a reason we have a brain! to reason stuff out, there's always that little saviour voice in us that begs us to stop acting stupid, listen to yours!

Its high time we quit begging you to stop dealing drugs, set your priorities right, in fact some people out here just need  a good 'father palm slap' across their face to wake up from the 'drug zombie' life! How long shall we beg young people in colleges and universities to straighten up? Some are just seeking attention, and they need to be whacked hard! 

When you start looking for trouble and excuses to do something, including dying and being useless in this life, believe me, you will definitely find it! This is Africa, so please, keep away from the damned drugs and build you a future! 

Be Honest To Your Self, Cut The Bullshit, Grow the Heck Up & It Shall All Work Out, Trust Me On This. There's A 'Good Reason'  Why Those That Traffic Hard Drugs Don't Get As Addicted As The Buyers. 

Responsibilities & Choices Maketh Man, Defines Woman!

©2015 Njoki,TheGoodBadGirl 

   

Life Lessons From President OBAMA's Life Story

1) Abort mission of killing or mistreating your step brother, he doesn't really need your land....!!! Don't hate your step siblings, welcome them to your father's home, you never know, you might need a ride one day! you might need to introduce yourself one day! think twice!

2) A single mothers like Obama's mom can also do a clean job of raising an intelligent man who is admired by nations. Single mom's lets be encouraged!

3) Just be patient with men, give them space, a man cave- to think and grow, they'll finally grow up and be forced to act like grownass men who can do a clean speech without reading, ask Mitchell. Weren't you amazed when Obama gave his speech without reading some paper?

4) Ladies, Don't fret if your man loves to wear tokyo trousers, funny shoes, shirts, and smoking cigars, his success and YOUR undying support will slowly change his dress code & manners automatically...patience pays, handsomely wink emoticon


5) Men, please don't cheat and or sleep around brainlessly, it doesn't earn you any respect like the 20th century, be like Obama, no sex scandals... you know what, Good spotless morals will be evident in your future, and no line-up of women will be queuing in court for child support! See Obama, (ask DMX the rapper, he has 12 kids he can't support)

6) Ye' Children of single mothers, do not worry, don't cry because of your runaway deadbeat father/mother, you shall step into greatness when you work hard instead of worrying. Obama made it! Yes We can! grin emoticon

7) Women, stay classy, don't parade your deadbeat boyfriend on Facebook and other social media, makes you look more Daft, Obama's mom did not, other GRACEFUL women don't. its less drama for your kiddo. Keep your good-bad love life away from social media. Social media is mostly for news, just for laughs and entertainment, so you might just give your enemy something to laugh about. And your ugly actions might scare away a guy who thought he could date you and love you with your child.Baggage, leave it behind, and if you cant, only gossip with your friends, far away from facebook.

8) Women, He's simply not that into YOU. Don't let a man convince you that he's too busy to be with you, Obama gets all the time to make his woman and children happy, to go out for dates and family outings. Obama is a freaking POTUS, your man has a downtown electronics shop....so please! shove him to the curb! and move on like your life depends on it!

9) Never ever side or rely with and on, gossip. Men, thou shalt not gossip, it look bad on you. Obama duly set a very good example for y'all. 

10) Act like a success, dress like the success you aim for, work like you want success, and it will follow.

NB: ^^^MANNERS MAKETH MAN!... And a Lady.


©2015 Njoki,TheGoodBadGirl 

Kenyan Women, The Alluring Dollar And 'Sexual Slavery'

Yo' Kenyan women, there's no way you can decide to go overseas to chase that dollar with some foreigner without notifying the country; get free air tickets, free house , free food, sign up a contract to act porn and when you go and get it rough, realize you just can't leave as easy as you came in before honoring your well paying 'job' contract, you come wailing for help from the rest of us! Hell NO!  we ain' got time for that. 

You cannot stand there and tell us that poverty, our 'bad' men, parenting, your mental problems, a lying white guy, whatever you smoke,your friends,  DROVE you or MADE you 'choose' to go sign up to act porn. We don't really care, you are your decisions. All that glitters is not gold, and it still could be gold if you get too close to 'experience'. If you go overseas knowing very well its about porn business, don't come back crying, we all ain' rich here, we are struggling as well, but we are paying our bills without sleeping around or acting porn, so, hey "Laura" and your friend "Cynthia Khamati" sit yo' ass down and spare us your stupid call! we cannot stop what we are doing to make money in our offices to attend to your regrettably bad decisions! both you you have failed women folk.

You know what, Before your employer employs you permanently they take 90 days to trust you and gauge how deserving you can be, which earns you several benefits in the company! You get medical cover, leave days and what not of permanent employment status. 

NOW! why won’t you girls just CHILL 100 days to get to know these dumbass foreigners who are here to ship you over for sex-games? As far as I’m concerned, a man who want to 'trade'' or '’trick’' you in to sex trade won’t be patient with you for 30 days, not even a week of you beating around the bush will the 'agent of porn' wait for you to agree...since there's plenty of desperate fish out there to go after. I was once a very active runway model and I have met these assholes too, and their Kenyan agents who will smoothly tell you how easy it is and how much dollar you will be earning per show and per night! I know their lingo & style. You'll meet them on Facebook, all other social mediums & Venues and they’ll promise you The Earth! with how you’ll be able to live like a star and the salary you get paid after 30 days of hard work at your company can be earned in a day... And when you’re desperate & brainless, you’ll go along.

Upon receiving the "Laura's" 'Sexual Assault' disturbing, debasing, disgusting, degrading , demeaning at ALL levels whether its acting or whatever video from a friend who sought me to comment on it, I have checked around, found that the "Ghetto Gaggers" is a very POPULAR porn site which has been on the spotlight before in the USA. It has White Psychopathic Males who sign up black girls for participation. These males sexually gag black women with their pricks till they vomit in to doggy bowl over and over, they slap and make them swallow back that vomit... its simply "rough sex and gagging" games going on there, which they make sure these black women sign contracts for. Its all consensual, ain' nobody being 'abused' against their will. 
  
Many black women are evidently featured there, so there is a very fat chance that the dumb Laura “MAY” have “voluntarily” gone into it without knowing what kind of hell awaits her - maybe thinking it’s just gon’ be ‘normal’ porn action....This is the highest level of self-disrespect - when you go signing up to play in a porn video thinking it’s all gon’ be cool, level and worth the fat paypal account. This is pure barbarism, why is it even part of ‘sex’!!! Whatever happened to being embarrassed by ugly actions? consciousness? Whatever happened to 'decent' sex?

My conclusion on watching the disgusting video is, Laura knowingly signed up and enjoyed and is well enjoying her stay there in Ohio and she has no problem whatsoever with whatever is going on here, she knew what awaits her and knew very well that will be her job, i.e. being gagged and chocked, and her friend Cynthia was here curiously asking how its all going down , and the trusting Laura decided to show her 'tip' of the iceberg; that is the video, and the 'fat check' she gets and the amounts she is affording to send back home to her parents, then Cynthia got all 'jealous' and decided she will take that moment to 'expose' her dirty little devil friend who is making money overseas with her lewd ugly acts in the porn industry...

Dear Girls, don’t tie your selves to “sexual slavery” while Chasin' a dollar, stick yo’ ass at home and sell something by the road side instead of this kind of self HATE! Jeez! When will girls learn? The lewd acts being landed on these shallow women on these videos are mental damaging acts that one cannot erase from their system. Even a prayer won't help them!

Beware & Take care. Make wiser decisions. Again, you are, your decision.

Sincerely,
©2015-Njoki_TheGoodBadGirl! 

I am NOT My Hair...

Weave RANT...Some of us are busy thinking and calculating how we shall get married, get pregnant and populate Central Province with more boys, more boys to at least fill the void left by the many lost ones, thinking how we'll join a class to learn a new art before the year ends, and YOU are here ranting about my Weave? Our Weaves.... Seriously? get a job because without money, you cannot air your views loudly these days.

I recommend for those not married to get married first and try keep 'her' from weaves...I just don't get it, a guy trolls into your post and unrelated, complains and offers solutions - unwarranted ones - on how good you will look in your 'natural' hair instead of the ugly weave, you know what Mr Man,We don't Care what you feel, you complaining about weaves on women is like a cat purring at a tree - it won't get you anywhere. Weaves, wigs & hair extensions have existed since ancient Egypt, the queens and the kings wore them and no one complained, do you think your complains can be heard now? i don't think so.

Yes yes and yes, some weaves really smell when left on long - four weeks and beyond- for careless people, and when girls decide to sleep in plastic paper bags over their heads plus a stocking over, i don't know whether its to magically perm the hair or cheat it to being softer... and for your information; so do natural hair and braids, they stink too because out of concentrated ignorance, some people imagine their scalp does not sweat because they cannot see any sweat trickling down their edges. I have bent over to someone's head while trying to work on their PC, this girl's natural hair reeked like a dirty wet gym sock, the unpleasant odor was chocking! I am witness women 'hair sweat' smell is not a lesser evil compared to the armpit one from a constructions handy man.

Those of us who wear weaves do not hate ourselves according to the information y'all been passing around. We love ourselves so much that we do not limit ourselves, we do as we like. We wear new weaves every month, every three weeks, not to make us look beautiful, but to enhance our looks - and not for you to see. Everyone is at liberty to have on their head what makes them feel nice. If it was about men wearing weaves, that would definitely be a one sided debate.

Ladies stop wearing stockings, knit caps and shower caps to bed- they are called shower caps for a good reason... they actually make your scalp sweat at night, and you therefore give people a bad day with foul smelling hair, whether naturally yours or fake, it will sweat and stink. Do not be afraid to wash your bed-sheets and pillow cases every three days because your oily hair will leave all the green "peris" "hair food" on it. By the way, hitting your head in public to ease that itch is embarrassing, for a moment it makes you look like a crazy woman who is struggling to remember something. Slap it, hit it even with a hammer in private so that any guy that likes you out here wont see that madness. 

Jay z has Beyonce and she too wears weaves and braids and with all his money, he has never found the guts to ask her to stop, you know why? it's none of his business and he respects his wife's decisions to look whoever she chooses. All other beautiful women who you drool over on your television wear weaves and they don't care about making you happy. So zip it! cuz we don't care either.

Look beyond the weave, look see a beautiful woman with a good heart, appreciate her and move on. Ladies, whip your hair back and forth as you please, its yours! and if its a wig, beware it will fall off.

Guys, if you're not the one mouthing the strands of hair from the stupid weave while trying to kiss her, or you are not the one sleeping with a woman in a weave, please keep your mouth shut about weaves you don't buy, contribute to or sit next to, you've got zero rights to rant and we don't need your permission to do whatever we want with our hair. We are not our hair, i am not my hair.

Some of us wake up very early to work for our money, pay all our bills and we therefore can do with ourselves as we please. When a good weave, braids or good natural hair is on ME, its mine, i paid for it, it's my business. Only Husbands and Boyfriends can have a [polite] say in this matter, as for the rest of you, mind your own damn beeswax!

.....Next!!!

Yours,

Njoki, TheBadGirl

You Met Online, So What's The Problem?

Hold your tooth brush like a pen, rather than a weapon, take it easy... You'll actually find people lying-admitting to meeting their "guy/girl" at the sewer than online...apparently there's a couple afraid to "confess" they "met online" So what’s the big deal about having met online? What's there to be ashamed of? The only bad thing is when you never meet and all you do is send each other silly poems and emojis - now that’s kidding. The same possibility of meeting a loser online is the same as when you meet the same loser at the Brew bistro or Sabina joy, at a safari park wedding, at a party in Runda or Kibera, at your church, at Gikomba while shopping for vegetables!

Even if you meet a guy through your mother, if the guy doesn’t like you bad enough and if he's not well behaved, he won’t start because yo’ mama selected him, a girl who doesn’t respect you won’t start just because you met her at her sisters party, shit don't work that way. If a man is an ass he will be an ass irrespective of where you met or whether the president introduced you or whatever the story you want to invent! Jerks, Con men, Thieves, and Date-rapists don’t go advertising themselves offline at the restaurant where you will possibly meet them, neither do they online, you learn about them slowly by being slow at dating and taking precaution when going out.

People like each other overtime, you learn each other regardless of where you met, then gauge whether the other person has too much bullshit than you can keep up with or otherwise, then you move on. The chemistry got nothing to do with this, chemistry fades like flash the minute one of you behaves badly and or shows characters that are not funny to you, like farting or belching too loud in your presence. Compatibility and Genuineness are some of the important characteristics you look out for, the rest fall into place slowly as you go.

"Online dating" is okay. If I meet a guy that looks mature, and when I read his "about" and see he is not in an “open relationship”, and not “sexually open” and his page looks like it’s a mature person who has been posting, then Hell yeah’ - if he is consistent in asking me out, communicating, and I kinda’ like him, I will go out on a date with him and gauge if he is as mature as his online profile suggested. I will pay attention, deep attention, I’m good at that, and  I will look to note what is likable about him other than what I had imagined, and or note whether he has a psycho, sociopath or a crazy needy, violent guy character. You can tell bad characters in 2 dates each 1 hour plus frequent chatting… [and guys if you like a girl on your Facebook please stop putting up profile photos of you and other girls, or of you behaving in a ratchet manner, we look out for these little things, we are girls and we look, actually spy for something to discourage us into accepting to chat with you and giving you our number] 

Maturity is very Attractive.

Girls, you cannot just disqualify him If the guy is an inch shorter than he said online, that’s not enough to drop him, there are more important things to look out for. But if he said he’s single and when he took you out on a lunch date and a crazy woman claiming to be his girlfriend came and poured fruit juice on you- Hell yeah! Drop him like a bad habit! Because evidently he ain' man enough to control the crazy women in his life! 

There is some nonsense you cannot drop a good guy for, like height, weight, colour, bad hair, his bad mix and match of clothing – you can change his dress code later on-  if all the other characteristics like valuing you, being consistent, commitment, communication, making you feel great, complementing you, respecting you, are all tops, you can let him get away with donning Tokyo trousers, and later on you can alter that and tell him what he looks better in.

Let no one deceive you, there are as many psychos online as there are OFFLINE, and no, those who try online dating are not losers or desperate, since everyone is busy or lazy and hiding online, online dating had to happen, and it’s okay, as long as you eventually meet after at least a month or two of serious chatting or rather “keeping in touch”…you never know, he might be a dick pic sender or an Mpesa sender or he never communicates at all, cuz you know what?, if he did not chat with you then, or talk to you on the phone, he won’t start when you show him your nipples...or he might be the nicest guy you will ever meet. Both possibilities are boundless.

Meeting a guy at the bar might be worse off since he might not take you seriously, or you might not take him seriously either, meeting at a wedding is not a guarantee that he will be the one. The bottom-line is, where you first had a first glance at each other doesn’t count, what counts is the future meetings and dates. You can meet a guy through your brother but when you go on your first date, he could sit there like a boss and ask you headless questions over his lunch break [by the way, lunch break dates are not cool, for a first time date] - you’ll think he is interviewing or worse interrogating you for a job posting, guys who do this, it’s appalling and it’s the reason she did not want to see you again!...

...And guys can you please quit the “what are you wearing and how was your night” question to a girl you are crushing on? It’s annoying - it makes me roll my eyes – unconsciously and it makes you sound childish. You can be allowed to ask that in a flourishing relationship, otherwise, keep it to yourfreakyself! If you want to date online, don’t go interrogating others online with “what do you do?” “which job exactly?” “which company?” who’s your boss?” “when did you last get laid?” “is your face really flawless?” “is that weave really your hair?” "what business do you really do" Nigga please! what are you? the police?! Don’t act like a dumb ass online because you’ll put everybody off with your silly “interview”, make things are normal as possible three four sentences of, how is your day, Had your breakfast/lunch yet?, I wish you a good day, I will chat with you later – and not making silly posts [like a HAAHAHAHA post- that makes you look crazy AF]-  that thought out kind of chat will grant you her number the next time you ask. Don’t come online to tell your crush how bored you are, bored people are boring!

A trend is set consciously or unconsciously, just be watchful. An idiot will always be an idiot and even more idiotic whether you meet him on Facebook, twitter,match.com, LinkedIn etc. or at the bus stop or railway station or even at your dad’s office, your main agenda being on social media, may not be dating, but if you like someone, go for it, ask her for her number, call her frequently to create a rapport, and then ask her out on a date, and girl, go to that date [only DON”T go to his house, or yours] and just follow “the after online” structures of dating as normal. Go to a safari walk or the museum if you are not comfortable sitting at a table full of food where you’re struggling to chew civilly, swallow and keep eye contact at the same time, but never at his friend’s place, the guy could be a rapist or worse.

Girls remember there are No shortcuts in dating or in courtship, and no imagining that just because you have been chatting on Facebook for 90days or on Whats-app that it means that you can get laid on the 91st day. 90 Day rule must apply, you will know a patient person this way, more now that we are living in a fast world of “I can get it elsewhere" . Dating begins when you go on the first date. Any day before that Does NOT count. At All!. …Guys here will try looking all cute, all seraphic and tell you that they don’t care if you sleep with them on the first date, that they won’t judge you, whereas they will be the first one to call a press conference and tell everyone how much you flexed it for him without struggle on the first date. Wackos are everywhere!

Remember it’s NOT a relationship, OFFLINE & ONLINE, until- you meet frequently, and till he asks you to be his woman and you agree to it, anything else is just an assumption or hope, and hope is not a strategy or a destination.

P.S Online Dating is not "OKAY" for those who are dating guys in Alaska who've been saying they're coming over... and its been what? five years now? Girl stop wasting your time! Look closer...

Irrepressibly,

Njoki, TheBadGirl!