Women; You're The Reason Men Will NOT Step Up!

Cut the supply and see these men turned 'Fuckboys' reclaiming their manhood and watch them move mountains!

You're the reason that man isn't stepping up

You see, men are like little clueless children, they follow your lead, they test you, tease you, just to get to know what your limits are, how low you can go, how much bs you can inhale and swallow,  just like they will test how much penis you can gag on when you open your mouth for it. G

Women are the pacesetters of the society, or why do you think some Kenyan Politicians are asking Women to deny their men sex until they can register to vote? 

ONE. Stop by all means sending boys and men nude photos of yourself, these men know where to download all the available varieties of pussy pictures from, they know where to watch porn from, they are not stupid, they are testing YOUR idiocy! once you send them, they will share with their friends, and laugh very hard at your stupid ass, no matter how fly and tight you think it is.

Even if you have sent a stupid picture once of out of your horniness stupidity [we've all had out 120 seconds of foolery!], you can start afresh! If you did send one this morning, take a chance grab his phone and accidentally make it fall into the water...Start afresh. 

TWO! Stop by all means going to these men's homes and doing their house chores when you are not married to them! how will this help you into being his wife? no one buys a pig when all they want is a damned piece of bacon! not even myself! Calculate and stop acting silly by acting like his mother! actually its such a shame that the kids at his apartment area think you're his his "Mama wa kufua"! 

Three!!! Affirmatively! quit having kamasutra sex with men who have not yet Respected you, Valued you, Loved you, known your second name, greeted your mother, or engaged you! or even cared enough pretend they will take you to their mother nor cared to pretend they want a relationship with you! Why do you think he will want to marry you when he can get all he wants whenever he whats, even in the bush, when he is conveniently getting it from you!? 


Gear up and take your steering wheel your way! Take full charge of your life! don't do what you really don't want to do just to suck up to some guy!


FOUR!!!!. Lets tone down on the flashy, porny pictures of our ass and boobs falling out their holders...lets be decent, lets present morality! Stop stripping for Facebook and Instagram congregation, down low to the naked just to get some attention from people that do not know you. Unless you're a print/fashion model, you have no business stripping for the camera. We are mothers, daughters, sisters, lets cut it out! the sexiest picture you should have is one where you're in a mini skirt or hot pants but not near naked or just naked! 

I have listened to great men and all they tell me is that if we women want respect, we must begin by showing some! Because we cannot be walking with our ass out of the booty-shorts and expect the guys in their cars on the street to treat us like Michelle Obama when we are busy exhibiting Amber rose characters 

FIVE!!!!!. Lets halt with the desperation! When some lame dude asks you to send him nudies so that he can keep you as his girlfriend, stomp on that shitty vibe and be the first one to dump his stupid ass! Men are not three in Kenya or the world! such that if he leaves you shall die of starvation or single-hood! If one no longer wants to be your boyfriend because you did not send him your boob pic, let the dumb ass GO! he is not even worth the bad tasting grain of sodium bicarbonate! and believe me, he shall be respecting you whether you refused to be sending him the picture he was to fap to or not!! 

SIX!!!!!! Lets have strong boundaries let them know the lines they cannot cross with you straight up! and refuse to allow idiots to break your rules whenever they feel like! to bend you however they feel like, do not feel rejected if men leave when they find out you have principles you standby! they might not tell you as they knock ever the buckets on their way out, but they will always remember how you refused to entertain their bullshit! Know what you can and cannot accept! 



SEVEN!!!!!!! Be Self Conscious! LET people GO! See, humans, the employees will never do anything worthwhile unless it is a requirement for them to get anywhere! and when they fail to meet these requirements, they are dropped off the list...am sure you have seen this happen in companies, and so should you be your own CEO! When someone does not meet your sane requirement, open the door for them! They don't call or text you? why are you texting them?, They always text and you prefer being called? why are you texting them back? You hate being called bitch? why are you smiling and answering them when they do? ...set these people free, let foolish relations go, let them die off! don't give them room for revival nor water the plastic flowers. Don't count it as a loss when jerks want to leave when they are not what you deserve! you can't lose what you did not have! Let them go and create room for better ones, don't accept them then hope to death that they will change, they friggin' wont! Desperation will not get you anywhere, it will only give you crumbs, Learn to let people go!

Ladies, just sit back, cross your legs and think this way; Imagine you are a man, just imagine you get sex anytime you want, many times without your asking, any position you want, anywhere you want it from, just imagine; you get someone coming to your house without making a single phone call, without trying, they clean ALL your dirty clothes and do a general house cleaning. Just imagine; you are a guy and you do not care about women since after one leaves you will readily get another one. Just Imagine; you are a man, and you get someone to cook for you, stock up your fridge, check on you, pay your rent without any EFFORT...Isn't this amazing to be a man? good.

Imagine you were this lucky man! what catalyst ...what drive..what appetite...what starvation, what rationale , what enticement in hell would you have to want to respect women, take any seriously, want to marry one, date one properly, or even want to be in an exclusive, committed relationship WHEN you're having ALL a man could ask for FREE, Readily AVAILABLE without questions or stress!!! Its like wanting to sleep in your neighbors house when you have the exact same house....

Be aware, Get it straight and allow it to sink; Men go about testing and then adjust, and attach themselves to the smallest statistic, the faultiest of character, the lowest denominator a beautiful woman lets them into!  That's why the same man who aggressively disrespects you, is the same man that will bow, sweat over and open doors for another woman who has the same vagina you have!... Stop giving men all these good wife benefits, they will realize you are serious woman who must be taken seriously, respected, loved, and treated right



If women refuse to behave properly the song of 'gentlemen no longer exist' 'men are dogs' will forever be on our lips! 

If we all behave, hold the boundaries tight, hide the booty and boobs from their whatsapp and Facebook timelines, these men shall have no other choice than to step up, or step aside.



Yo' Girl!
©NjokiThatGoodBadGirl!™2016

Its Your FAULT If You Are Keeping Up With A Violent Partner When You Can Leave!

Why do people tolerate so much disrespect and foolery when they have lots of options in the name of love & relationship?

Why do educated women put up with so much bullshit and still at the end of it all not learn a friggin' thing from it!? do these women just get comfort from playing doormat? 

Women especially pretty women must be suffering low self esteem and from security issues since they stand most of this kind crap! they even translate a slap for proof of love! OMG!

I have watched a video of two morons, Kawira 22 and John Wachira  30, from Langata Nairobi. Kawira is beaten - which comes to blood spilling while she is pregnant, she is thrown out and the moron still goes back and gets beaten again, she has been helped by neighbors to take the matter to the police, but she refuses all that help and causes the cases to be dismissed. How do we even deal with this kind of inanity?! 

In this time and age, I think women who are still standing abusive men are just playing dumb! You'll see a woman who has been kicked out by the guy forcefully returning to the same house only to get beaten again. Its over ladies, women are seeming to like playing victim so that they can elicit sympathy from the onlookers unfortunately some of these pretty ladies are dying from this violence they had all the time to escape!

These women give various excuses for standing this form of stupidity; from staying for the kids, to they don't have money, to they are praying for the man to change...BS! If at all you believe that your God will change your beastly man, why not believe that the same God will provide for you and your kids when you move?!!! The Pity Party Is Over! when you realize a certain rabid dog waylays people at a certain street, you do not pass that hell of a street again, think of that violent man as that rabid dog and make a damned move!

Women who are standing violent relationships do not need any more pity, or sympathy, they need a very good slap from their parents or sibling! UNLESS they are victims of being locked up in some room and under torture! 

All these young women are grown ups who can make a decision to move out, women who are experiencing abuse should report, move out, or seek help. But these women do not want to leave rich husbands! Big houses! Daily allowances! etc...SMH! 

How does  a man kick you out, beat you black and purple, and you still get your black ass, black eyed face back to the same house? is this not utter doltishness?! When a man asks you to leave, just leave! Women are waiting until their faces are fried, their teeth broken, if not killed, to start crying how they wish they left earlier! 

Its not a requirement for everyone to get a husband to get a pass to heaven, that's why God gave us that as an option! ...We are not in a competition of who has  a husband and who doesn't, you don't have to struggle to keep a wife beater on your side just to be 'recognized' as married! This is bullshit! and women standing this are as stupid as those cowards beating and killing them! This is the same thing as one eating their own vomit! it hurt you once, it will hurt you gain!

Why are people scared to make a move, to survive alone! Those who go with the excuse that they cannot provide for the children if they left PLEASE!! give us a dang break! How many widows and single mothers have survived bringing up kids on their own! Don't be lazy! get out of that stupid hole and go work your ass off to provide for your kids!!

Please Check Your Self!....

•Remember that its not your fault to have met a bad egg, we all do meet psychos, the difference is 'when' we choose to step out of the bullshit!

•Don't begin enjoying being a punching bag!

•Leave at the first sign of abuse!

•Having 10 children with a violent guy won't make him stop beating you or love you!

•You should not be embarrassed to admit its happening to you! life is too short!

•Talk to someone else about it! take a chance to seek help! 

•If you're NOT under chains, lock and key, get the hell out! 

•You can NOT fix a violent man into seeing your value! ever!

•Do not let the 'I love you' verbatim trick you into staying!

•You cannot love an animal that bites so much that it quits biting!

•When he throws you out, leave, just leave! and don't look back!

•Just because that one man is violent, not every other man is violent out here, you WILL find love even with two kids!

Do women realize that they are affecting the same children they are trying to 'provide' for by standing violence, by letting them see daddy hit them around, by exposing them to violence? These kids either become abusers themselves, or they grow up to stand violence like mommy did! Women please pull the pity foolishness aside and live a peaceful responsible life even if alone! Do not show your kids that its okay to be demeaned and humiliated!

What the hell is wrong with people! Do not be where you are not wanted!  

Do not find yourself needing to be with someone so badly that you put up with all their nonsense!

Domestic violence only gets WORSE! so please! do not focus your energy into imagining you can stand the punches long enough for him to see you're a keeper, don't be stupid!

Remember when you get out of a Domestic Violent Relationship, you are no longer a victim, you become a Survivor! your children's hero!

Yo' Girl!

©NjokiGoodBadGirl™2016

When You Have Nothing To Offer, Be Humble & Sit Down!

Apparently people with the least to offer have the most and the craziest demands! These narcissistic people feel some superiority they do not even possess!

Look  at men for instance; A man with a pot belly sitting from here to Mt. Elgon demands that the woman must have  a flat tummy, and should be a skinny picky eater to save on food and make sure she remains looking like a model with 24inch waist even after four kids and a couple of verbal and emotional abuse. OKAY!... While a woman without  a job, who has never touched any truly hard earned paycheck gets busy demanding the man she will have a relationship with must have a six figure job, a house, domestic workers and must have three range rovers in the compound who should be same age as her.  People, spare us! you have no right to complain on nor demand things you cannot offer the other person, and more when you can't compromise by shutting up, or even balance it some other way.

You cannot afford to be a parrot at home, making the most noise, being quarrelsome for the man who worked the whole day as you laid about at home and watched Afro-cinema...and you cannot be the guy that has no job but waits for your woman to get home at 10PM to start cooking for you after she has breastfed your baby every day, while what you did the whole day was play games on her home PC and eat her food remainders.

Young men who have impregnated the whole village, from Murang'a to Kakamega, and run away from child supporting responsibilities, stand there with their noses up the air bleeding shamelessness demanding how much they must marry a virgin and or  a woman who has never given birth! where will the girls that you damaged and run for the hills go to?!

Young women yell from the hill tops how much their boyfriend to be must be intelligent and witty, when themselves cannot tell whether Eritrea is really a country in Africa or not, when they cannot sit still to even read a newspaper to know whats going on in the city. While others with three kids from different men, make demands that the only man that will marry them, is the man who has no baby mamas, has no children and is very responsible, and they will ignore an interested single dad and actually insult him for trying.

Women have vagina's. Some men have money.  To some, that is all they need to bring to the table no matter how bad their grade was back in college, no matter how bad they have failed in every angle of life, and unfortunately or fortunately for some of these women, most men are thirsty enough to settle for just that, a vagina and a smashing body...they get married and cheat from the after wedding day because life's  satisfaction is not transmitted via sex. There's more to a partner than the physical.

Sadly, men with good morals, respectable, well behaved, clean...but unemployed or under employed or even maybe with low income get nowhere with women, and if they do, the hyena-like women by the road-side just grab all the savings and leave the naive guy high and dry! Same case with good women who have been in bad and broken relationships that left them scarred, the men with unknown number of children in every city reject these ladies escaping baggage, while they themselves have baggage tagging along. 

Well, its not evil to yearn to get to higher heights than one has, but we must also look at what we are bringing on the table too...if you think your demands are as crap as above, slowly sit down and curl your tail.



Don't allow yourself to be short changed. Life is short.

If anything;
Stick to your lanes, to what you can afford!
If you feel trapped, get out!
When the respect, the love, the understanding, the trust is not mutual...someone is being shortchanged or y'all playing games!

She wants a 6 ft man, with a 6 figure salary who has  6 pack, while she has a belly all the way to 4o inches wide and standing at 3 feet...such like people end up waiting for too long to get partners who fit that crazy checklist, since what they have cannot even match up with people whom they think deserve them, same case with men who want a rich, hardworking, highly educated woman, who is 100% subservient/submissive, that will rarely happen! Educated women can never play subservient to any man, it takes a special case, so y'all got to get serious with what you have on your checklist as a dream life partner! Instead of waiting for one, make one.

The reality is that these days, the ones in the 10th level of their social class get their own 10's because most times only their own type can take all the arrogance where there is, the 6's get 6's! it is in rare cases that you will meet a woman in 10th class with a man who is down in 6th level. Most men however take women who are low in the social class, they don't ask as much as women do most of the time since serious men do not look for women to provide for them, but they look to be providers and they therefore look more into physical attractiveness.

Again, you cannot afford a nasty attitude and still demand a caring, understanding, listening, compassionate, empathetic partner! A partner who according to your own judgement is in your dating chain! even the gods won't accept that!

You don't marry the physical and material characteristics, you marry the person with the characters. The height of a man or the thinness of a woman doesn't really help if you think about it with an open mind.

If it drains you, its definitely a sucker vampire!


Yo' Girl,
©NjokiGoodBadGirl™2016