Hey, today is boys to men day- in my calendar!
Sometimes you're just the main Banana, or well, just the second Banana!
Believe me when I tell you that even women can use men without flinching! contrary to the belief that only men use women. A woman can use you for sex, she can use you for your money, use you for your status, use you for your fineness or even use you for your problems! don't believe me? look around, how many jobless, ambition-less young men today do we have in this city sleeping with sugar mommies so that they can get a car to floss in the streets with...? from the high side of such women they are using young men for sex, company and probably the fresh looks and more, trying to have a baby from the young sperms. They imprison these willing lazy young dudes denying them their freedom to date women their age, have fun or even look at other women as they pass by. Sugar mom's are extremely possessive.
Dude, that is called being USED!
Men, women your age will use you too whether you think you are smart or otherwise. A woman who did not go to school is still able to maneuver her way into using a well educated man and still walk away unnoticed. Very few men are aware they have been used or are being used.
Guys if you thought you got game, that sneaky ass game of playing with the ladies mind, just take a minute and look inside the glass house, you might just be the one who is being played! Women are cleverer than you think, they can act out, get what they want and walk out unscathed, if Samson was alive, I would've asked you to consult him but since he is not around, just open your King James Bible and read his history with that fine-ass woman who placed his face on her fine warm perfumed thighs just next to her coochie making Samson the lion spilled ALL his beans!
Women - pretty ones at that, have been known to bring down kingdoms even those owned by great, wise, strong men. Yours won't be the first one.
Wise Words By King Lamuel- The Bible somewhere in Proverbs
"What, O my son? And what, O son of my womb? And what, O son of my vows? Do not give your strength to women, Or your ways to that which destroys kings"
How will you know she is USING you?
•She is the Milking Magnolia: her bills, your problem!
Well, there's nothing wrong with paying all her bills if you are a millionaire like Steve Mbogo is, but even so, a responsible girlfriend who truly loves and minds you will be embarrassed to accept everything from you ALL the time, unless you are married. A girlfriend who is using you will even stop talking to you just because its 3rd of the month and you have not paid for her gel nails, her human hair, her rent, her dad's mortgage and her brother's school fees, while you aren't even married yet. Even a girl should offer to get a guy something even if its just a pen. They say, get broke and watch her disappearing reaction.
•She is the Moody Mildred: She's always moody around you!
You get to her house days after paying her rent and she is not actually happy to see you, she doesn't even fake it. She tells you she had a bad day and that you should beat it and come back the next day because she is not in the mood of speaking to you or anyone else. She is never ever attentive to you, zero effort into building the relationship, zero effort into trying to please you! and only acts nice when she wants something specific, Boy, she is using you!
•She is the Busy Belinder: She is always too busy for you!
Your girl is an office keeper and she will never receive your calls or even text back, because she has been busy with work. We are women we can multitask, we can actually be sitting in the loo and still be texting you when we really like you. This kind of a girl will visit you, have sex and leave quickly. Tell me which loving girl does that? we all want to lie there and hold our man after sex. But if we don't care, we just have sex to either enjoy it, test it [if not great, that becomes the end] or for the sake of being on the good books for bills sake. If she says she was too busy and replies to your text 32 days later with a "hey" following a nudie especially after a booty call initiated by her, Man, she is bullshitting you! you are just her toy guy she only wants you when she is bored and, or horny.
•She is the Angry Ophelia': Most of the times she's mad at you!
She's been your girlfriend for three years but many are the days that she gets mad at you out of very small unimportant things. She throws remotes and keys at you just because you've used bad grammar or because you passed gas by belching. She makes sure you are not speaking 18 days out of the month, and only speaks to you on the 20th when you can come and apologize with flowers and chocolates - since the salary is close. This girl doesn't love you! When we love our men sincerely we want to speak to them the whole day, speak important things like our futures, we do not get tired even if we had an argument the previous night when we are sincere.
Vampire Viola: She drains your energy and money!
If after being with her you feel exhausted like you just bolted 100 meter race, faint like you just donated too much blood than required, you just feel like you've drowned your cash at a casino, you just feel down low, man, she is not a devil worshiping blood sucker, she is just using you. A woman who truly minds you will try to make you feel good and feed you with positive vibes, speak life into you every chance she gets.
Such vampires will even have the guts to tell you how stupid and how silly you always sound when you speak - right to your face and still say they love you. Someone who is your girlfriend should be the person who makes a difference on your a bad day and not being one of the bad omen.
Dreary Drusilla: She demands you follow!
She is a loner, weird, scary and very beautiful, she demands you become like her, into loner world. Nothing wrong with loners, but someone honest will let you have your life even if you're a couple. This type demands you drop everything on your schedule for them, quit Facebook and Whats app and even delete your gmail account because she doesn't like social media. She acts like she is Amish!
When she's been your girlfriend for 15 days and she is already demanding - not asking, that you should stop hanging out with your buddies whom she did not bother to get to know, she is using you for your company and fitting you into her one "woe-man" club and she doesn't like the idea of your wise friends opening your blind eyes to her mischievous 'devilish' ways. She only wants you to be where she wants [in her house cuddling or watching soaps or actually just looking at each other] and doesn't bother to want to be where you'd like to be.
Selfish Florentina: Its all about her!
She is the mean queen. She doesn't introduce you to her friends or even family. She treats you like you are her therapist and not her partner. When you sit to talk and its all about her, her and her for the whole three hours. She narrates her problems and what she wants and where she wants to vacation in December, what you haven't done for her, and doesn't give you a millisecond to air your issues as well, but when you zone out and stop paying attention, she protests how much you are not attentive to her and so you do not love her anymore, man, she is not in for your good, only hers. She is a nutcase, you're her hypnotherapist.
Don't Care Dominica: Never cares!
Some people do not ask you how you are doing, how you day was, the only thing they do is dive into it and ask is 'when are we going to the Safari Seven's game in macha' and that is because they don't care about you!. Men usually translate this 'not being bothered' as a good shy girl who doesn't talk much, which actually means, 'she doesn't give an F about you, like when you want to move house and she is like "fine! let me know when I can visit when you're done moving" a real girlfriend will offer to assist in every way and a logical man will notice the disinterest. Like when you are sick and she doesn't even ask where or how you're feeling and only checks you a week later with "hey! buddy hope you felt better, what have you cooked? can i come?" Dude. Beat it. Every woman has that dude she cares about, and its just not you.
When she ONLY likes your fineness, your status, your money, your connections; you lose them, you lose her, and she gets a new dude with what you HAD! pay attention!
If you suspect that your girlfriend is using you, she probably is, and most of all, she is just NOT that much into you to bring in her 100% as you bring in your 110% and there's nothing better than leaving her alone you can do to change her.
Just because she is willingly giving you her cookie does not mean she is not using you!
Yo' Friend,
©NjokiGoodbadGirl™2016
