Happy new year to you!
So many people get desperate and go ahead to self demote and pauperize themselves by accepting the 'call girl' or even 'call boy' and 'ATM robo' positions, when they were previously girlfriends or great boyfriends! These kind of people especially women, feel like the crumbs of love are better than going to shop for a whole fresh bread of the elusive love.
When you get someone and try develop something authentic but then it doesn't work, just swallow that bitter pill, dust your ass up and try again elsewhere, with a new person who will be interested because you can only develop something with interested partners.
FYI; Love Is Not Found, It Is Developed. You got to work on it and you got to be on the same page with the other person. Just like land, not everyone can afford it, some just want to view it, stomp on it, some just want to hear the price, some just want to 'land' on it, others want to be seen by others standing on it, others to just want drive through it, others are there to pee and poop on it and very few want to Develop it into a beautiful home - NjokiGoodBadGirl™
When you start missing an ex who mistreated you, who never saw your value, that is the minute you should fast and pray, because that is the same thing as you missing being in a previous accident so that you can get some lame-ass attention. Imagine you're sitting there missing a guy or a girl who did not respect, love, honor you as a person, don't you think that is just being desperately nuts?! I am human I have very well missed an ex before and I well know its the stupidest thing ever! I rebuke it as soon as it comes and so should you! Once you step back, stepping ahead becomes a challenge, trust me!
I have seen people having a new year resolution of returning to the Ex, because they feel that will make them winners! they feel like the Ex is their soulmate, which I see as very very dim of them, if they left, they are not your soul-mate! because a horny ex, a hungry ex, will not reject free company, where by 'free' I mean zero responsibility and zero commitment requirement, the zero requirements and zero obligations are the only reasons an Ex agrees to come back to you, actually to your house, have sex with you, eat your dinner, poop in your loo - and leave it unflushed... then leave and later look for an excuse to kill the communication between you and him which is tactfully letting you know that HE IS NOT AVAILABLE FOR YOU!!!
The minute we miss and actually start texting the wicked ex looking for a crack to sneak back, the ex automatically sees how much we do not respect and love ourselves enough. I have said this and I will say it again, people who do not treat you right when you are in a relationship fail to do that because they actually do not like you enough to want to be with you, and treating you bad is a reaction to try to drive the point home. Letting them back is degrading yourself, since ex's come back and just want to continue from where they left. Even companies do not allow untrustworthy employees who leave to dare come back and continue from where they left! Face the reason why you parted ways, and there you'll find your answers.
Just sit back and imagine someone who was a complete twat in your life, who treated you like you do not matter, then you now sit there and you start missing them?...doesn't that reduce you to a puppy that goes back to check if their vomit is still warm? from my own experience I know that people who were never nice to you when you were in a relationship with them will not be nice to you when you call them back to be 'just friends' . These people will want you half way and reduce you to being their 'good times buddy' for just sex and parties, you become the Booty Call, because to them you made yourself available and that's the only available position they have for you...
Again, when you accept the ex calling you to check on you, and vibing you how much they miss you, its 98% never genuine, the reasons are always simple...
1. He is horny
1.1 She is broke
2. He/she is desperately lonely and couldn't find anyone to accept his/her shit
3. They want to check if you still dance to their music [testing thomas]
4. They just want a quick fix by playing with you
Don't deceive yourselves girls, when a guy calls and tells you how much he misses your great coochie, get it in you that no poonany is great enough to keep a man or make him continue coming back, all of the cookies are the same and he can get any other wherever he wants...and again if your coochie was so awesome before, why did he leave in the first place? Don't become any one's pass time girl - that's what they do, they pass time with you till they can get what they really really like... and that's how the cycle of getting back together and breaking up goes on and on. Face your demons and rebuke them away!
There is a 2% chance that he has changed and grown up to want to be in a relationship with you, and its very rare. I have been there so I am talking from first hand experience, the Ex-guy knows my place so he calls and wails the way he wants to 'talk' , I well agree so that I can also check him out, he comes over all 6'ft tall, dark and still handsome ...which almost gets into my panties... dude starts talking and getting all close and personal, and within 20 minutes of carefully listening to his every word and move, I already knew the leopard has not changed its stripes...and therefore I decided I am not ready to paint a leopard with attractive colours just to entertain myself and him as well.
When ex's come back, play us and leave us, its US who are foolish to even allow them back and give them airtime, we cannot blame them for a minute because we are supposed to be wiser, just like a thug cannot blame an electric fence for striking him when he climbs on it. Its your life, you guard it, and when you get too careful, its not being selfish or afraid, its getting cautious.
Be Honest to yourself, Love yourself, ain' nobody out here who can love and respect you better that YOU! Rid yourself the ex business so that you can have a fresh start without the ex's stains on you because the new guy/girl will not be open to deal with someone who has issues still lingering with their damn Ex!
Don't keep the ex floating around like some gassy doo-doo, flush and sink the friggin' turd and move ahead! 2016 is another chance to do better, don't declass yourself!
Cheers!
Your Friend,
©Njoki-GoodBadGirl™2016
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