Kenyans; Phished And Catfished, Whats Your Status?

Well, people are hungry for love out here, people do not want to love those that they know, their friends; yet tell us loving best friends is the best thing huh... they want to love their imaginary lovers; The Online mates. I'm not saying that it’s a bad thing to seek and find the elusive love online, but it should be done cautiously. It can get dangerous; you can end up dating a killer- who will trap and hurt you, a psycho too, and most of all, a 'lover' who will talk you into spending heavily on them. 

Beware of falling too deeply in love before meeting them!

Westerners or rather 'old wazungus' are the ones that get Catfished mostly by black people from Nigerian and Ghana, you will bear me witness from the messages you get in your Facebook spam boxes with west African 'women' asking you to contact them via their email and that they like you and that they would like to know you better...ring a bell?....once you start that conversation with them, you get in hook line and sinker, they will convince you into doing things you’d otherwise not do. [Don't believe me? watch shows like Dr.Phil]

I have seen Wazungus spend millions on lovers they have never met...like seriously how daft can people get...? Don't be one of them! People do inbox me on FB asking me if I think they are being duped and 100% of they time they are being duped, especially when it comes to sending cash. Imagine yourself sending cash to someone who refuses to chat with you on Whatsapp on the basis that they do not have the App! and they claim to be in America or Britain.

It’s okay to want to find love online, it is okay to find it, it’s just like meeting elsewhere, what matters is what you do after meeting online.

How do you know someone is Catfishing or Fooling You?

•They cannot tell you where they work or live

•They won’t agree to meet due to various convincing reasons

•They will ask you for help by feeding you their serious problems first

•They are too perfect

•They have only 1 or 2 photos where they are just by themselves, no tags, no friends

•They will tell you they work in the American army, have 1 child and they're seeking love after their wife died from cancer, it’s always cancer.

•They will tell you they're on a peace keeping mission in Liberia, Senegal or Congo

•Later...on they will ask you to help them with a few dollars ‘to test if you really trust them’…and since [women] want this man to trust them, they send money via western union to a soldier in Liberia SMH

Those who catfish women are mostly "white guys" -I imagine some Nigerian in a Calabar cyber 

Those who catfish men, represent themselves as white "rich" women online, and they mostly do not know your true gender when spamming you with these messages...they just send and wait for you to come in and reply....

The catfishing and phishing morons cast their nets as wide as possible, they will inbox you on Facebook, on your Gmail spam box, even your office email, and when you are acting desperate and greedy enough to want shares in money you never made, you will fall into their trap and really waste yourself. . In Nigeria, they are called 419ners- they ask you to assist them to transfer cash from their dead husbands account...bla bla bla …don’t be a fool enough to transfer money for people you do not know, it’s a money laundering crime. The 419ners are known world wide, if you don't know them, well, you heard it here first. :)

The 419ners are the same thing as the Phishing guys, who only seek your bank info using granma stories,  they ask you for address and lie to you that have some money which they want to divide and give you half if you agree to give them your bank account number, credit card details and suchlike information...sound familiar? Am sure almost everyone has got this kind of messages online. If you fall for it, well, you're a greedy fool just to be honest...

To Avoid Being Catfished, Fooled and Or Wasting Time With Online Lovers;

Ask to meet them live, at an open place.

-Meeting them will stamp their credibility, them creating excuses frm here to mombasa on how impossible it is to just meet, should be a red flag!

-Meeting someone will make you see their true self and you'll know whether you like how they chew their food or whether they stink of tobacco upclose

-meeting someone as soon as you start imagining you love them will spare you some bad heart break, I have seen people who fall in love online over 1 year, they never meet and when they eventually do, they person is short, darker, uglier than sold out.

 

End it with Strangers Who Ask For Monitary Assistance!

-Not that money is  a big deal, but people who go 'begging' for cash online are not straight people to me, how can someone just think you're some ATM and that you can pay their rent from the minute you replied their hi greeting?

Google them!

-When someone is really real, they will tell you their real names, so check them out, if there’s zero on search, then they do not exist, if the name exists but with different images, then Sister, you've been played!

-You can search them via their photographs on google, when fake they appear on multiple sites that they said they’re not into, that should be a huge red flag. These fraudsters steal photos online!

 

Catfishers are always inquisitive

-They first ask you what work you do, how many kids you have, trying smoothly to learn everything about you, so that they can use it against you later on, to play with your emotions. If you think am lying, go ahead and answer one catfisher and see the flow of communication…Plus they give you complements first thing! 

Most of all, you just cannot afford to act stupid online, be realistic in everything you do, and people you are 'lusting' after.  We have Skype, ask to speak to them live just to be sure, and to your surprise the man who told you he is in Liberia for peace keeping mission will tell you he doesn't have bundles right after you send him cash for "buying a mobile phone" always trust your intuition, when it smells like a decaying rat, its always a decaying rat.

Girls, I know you have fallen for this, be careful or you'll be sending all your hard earned money to some thug in Lagos, thinking you're helping your Alejandro get cleared at the border to come marry you as soon as the 'border' cops are done with him, after which he will ask for fuel cash because all he is carrying is in dollar currency and he doesn't really want to waste time visiting a bureau to exchange lest he gets late to get to you, since you are busy waiting for him at the AG for the "wedding". At that time you are not even asking yourself why your Alejandro has an Mpesa line!

Beware! or be Square!

Its Yo' Girl,

©Njoki-GoodBadGirl™ 2016

The ONE NIGHT STAND With NO HEART-STRINGS ATTACHED

Sex is good for your health and good for your psych! But only with some people not everyone will give you this satisfaction.

Girl, first, sex is not love for men, he doesn't love you, rarely do we "love" in a few hours nowadays. Lady, you went in blindly, I only expect girls to go in on ONS then think later when they're 18, 19, and 20 not grown women at 25 and over! Second, when he picks you at a bar, he assumes you’re parading your ass at the bar so that you can be picked!

People will have sex instantly for various reasons, for women; its Love or the imitation of it, it’s the emotion that the guy is the one, or it could be materially thought out after spotting him counting dollars, and even out of pity. Yes, a woman can sleep with you if you've really tried to get laid without any luck, after treating her so well; she might not exactly love you but will have sex with you out of feeling sorry for you. 

Girl, you do not really love the man in question he doesn't love you either, you just met for a few hours, you got your brains fucked over, you acted desperate and called, he lied he'll be travelling, it’s your fault, you scared him away, am certain he thought you understood that you’re just a sex mate and that’s it.

Men will agree with me that they rarely take you seriously when you meet at the bar, they equate you to the call girls waylaying customers at the bar and that’s just that. [If at all he gave you cab fare, you are just that a hoe to him, a serious man will drop you home, was it in some lodging? Worse! ] Confirm with them.

Dear girl, having met at the Brew- I bet Bistro….some white skin deceived you, I bet you dreamt of interracial babies, getting into that plane...bad news he just wanted a vessel to break his nuts into, and there you brought yourself in a silver plate, fork and knives...this kind of high passion where you do not really know each other but the emotions of LUST are riding sky high always comes down to a halt and crashing, just like yours has, you saw him he smiled at you and you instantaneously perceived that as your soul mate. Am sorry but it just doesn't work that way.

Most times, men go hunting for ONS, so to this guy, you're just a NUMBER he hit and forgot, most men crave sex most times and a couple of others all the time, so we can even bet he cannot remember anything you told him that night, I can bet he cannot remember what you were wearing either.

Let’s face it, it’s very difficult to bring a relationship to any other level when it begun with sex. If only you knew each other for a while! ain' nothing  better that talking first, getting to know each other’s life, then having sex later in all AWARENESS, its much more fulfilling! 


If you’re going to have a hook up, have it and forget about the guy! One night stands cannot build an instant marriage that you're secretly dreaming of leave alone a relationship. To this guy, you became a hook up, and that was it, you will never be the lady he cuddles with, the lady he takes out, the one he kisses passionately, you are the one he just came in, a mere "fuck buddy" and that’s about it, so cry, count your losses and your twatness and move on. In fact if you hadn't been the one to call him, he would have called you to have more sex, just sex, with no strings attached, but you spoilt it for him and now he has to fake that his passport has expired.

OH! He said he will call? NEWS! THEY ALL DO! So calm your titties, he did not intend to call, that’s just a line everyone uses, I even drop it on people who won’t stop talking when I want to leave or when I want them to friggin leave already!

Girls, the “I DON’T USUALLY DO THIS” line does not work, when you agree to have sex with him 120 minutes into meeting him, whether you swear in your mommas name you do not usually have sex on the first night or not, he will not believe you, he will only act like he does, men in their reptilian mind, believe that minute you agree to sex within hours of meeting, that is what you do all the time with ALL men. Let no one cheat you that this mindset has evolved, it hasn’t no matter how immoral the people are getting. Get that!

Girls, sex on the first date imply short termed fun and not a loving marriage! So don’t put your imaginary babies in this basket. I bet men like getting serious with women they meet sober and with their clothes on, because we need a proper foundation, sex rarely build lasting relations, although not impossible, don't put your hopes on it.

This guy just wanted to rub off his sexual steam and you let him, so live with it. You let yourself be used, it can’t be that bad, and you had fun too I imagine…

Why women should NOT participate in ONS;

-ONS are never satisfactory, women involve emotions, ONS is where women fake Orgasms, and imagine the guy will fall in love after seeing how wide we can open their mouths when screaming

-It will leave you feeling stupid very very loose, especially when the guy doesn’t call or follow up after the nasty action!

-It makes your self-esteem go a bar low when you start thinking why the dude is not calling you after you gave in. You start thinking  maybe your ass was stinking last night and that’s why he did not text 

-It makes you actually fall into the ho’ zone, guys won’t tell you but they have this zone, for the women they can sex anytime, far from the zone of women they can seriously take to their mother

-ONS will not bring forth devotion from the man, no matter how new age or fashionable you think it now is, no matter how fair he speaks, no matter how he says he won't judge, he freakin will judge you!

-Women cannot separate sex and feelings, so quit playing a pigs game, you’ll stink!

-It will leave you feeling disgusted and much unfulfilled or even suicidal!

-men will usually have fun with the hot and sexy, then marry the safe and innocent!

-Men are sexual hypocrites, they will have a ONS sex with you, no matter how fly you feel,then later talk about you in the crudest ways you can imagine!

-To men, its just action, the thrusting and ejaculating, period. To him you’re usually some little pump and dump!

Women only pretend to be okay with ONS but they are not, so stop pretending and get to know a guy’s second name before opening your legs for him. See, men will sleep with women they do not like, women they are not even their type [like husbands who do their dirty housemaids], and women who do not even sparkle any attraction in them, unlike women. One night stands gives men a bragging right of just how many women they can easily take to bed, don’t get yourself to be used just to make a cute as a cat guy feel masculine and confident.


Don't use sex as bait to get a man to love/like you. It has proven to fail. It’s always safer to wait till you are in a defined relationship to have sex, otherwise you will be gambling with both your feelings and private parts, or just have responsible sex with a person you know, a person whom you’re in clear cut terms with, a person you can have sincere- without faking orgasms, a person you are on the same page emotionally with to avoid issues later on. Believe me, Sex will always be better with someone you can trust, someone you’re passionate about and someone who feels the same about you.

Girl, if you have a pattern of getting disappointed with men or get bitter when they disappear on you after ONS and NSA sex-escapades, you should probably stop it already. You’re not cut out for bed hopping!

This man was thinking with his penis, and after he was done, he started using his brain, and evidently the brain advised him to run from you. To him you were just a walking vagina and he was a vagina predator. 


By the way, the Emotional bullshit you are experiencing now is caused by the chemical oxytocin, that lovey-dovey attachment high will eventually go. 


...And, you actually ditched your friends to go get dicked? you probably deserve the outcome!

Finally, have your walk of shame, the guy had a walk of triumph.....and Lady, you just had a friggin' One Night Stand, a No Strings Attached sex, stop making a wedding out of it. You came, he came, game over.

Yo' Girl,
©Njoki-GoodBadGirl™

DICKMATIZATION OF THE KENYAN WOMAN....

You know you must and should dump his dumb ass that breaks your heart in very small pieces, countless times, your friends have told you that the nigga doesn't deserve you! but Lo and behold, you remember his dick game is on cloud 9, it leaves you feeling like you've been re-born! ...YOU call him to apologize for what HE did to you! That's Dickmatization!!!

Dickmatization is when a guy loser or not lays his blackish muscle pipe on you and in you, you become all hypnotized. You can’t think, you can’t stop texting his never-replying ass. You cannot stop yourself from calling him 100 times a day of which he only picks 1 call and ignores all others asking him when he is coming over. You become STUPID, totally loony, from 100% intelligent woman to a dumb ass girl who cannot think clearly and objectively.

Dickmatization has claimed so many women’s sanity… Most Kenyan girls are Dickmmatized. This epidemic includes intelligent beautiful, high-class women who have great jobs, and great positions in their companies.  Your status doesn’t matter Dickmatization is real! its an epidemic, I can be dickmatized too, but I don’t let that shit get to me, you got to make me feel good in other areas too, so should you, every woman is capable of being dickmatized!

All over this town you see pretty women in 'relationships' with thugs that have dickmatized them completely! When a woman gets good sex from a loser and she gets stuck for life! Just look around you, how many women are keeping losers in their houses? How many women are paying bills for these boys with long dicks?  How many women are begging these boys with huge Ds not to leave, how many are paying off these boys to stay in their beds? count and tell me...!

A perceived good dick is making a sleeping women wake up at 4 am to open the door for a drunk thug so that she can get the glorious morning wood that will make her late for work and eventually fired! Perceived good dick has made women give these boys their cars to roll around the hood with as the women take public transport. A perceived good dick has made women to be sending these men a good 10k as a ''Good Dick allowance' every two weeks [so that they do not leave] 

Dickmatization will have you shave your hair coz the thug said so, it will make you have breast implants because the D owner thinks you’ll be prettier that way, Dickmatization will have you bleach your face coz the nigga threatens to leave you for a  white chick. Dickmatization will have you quit your job just to stay at home and get dicked all day!

SO! Are You Dickmatized?

•Girl, if a man lives in your house, sleeps all day, hangs out with his friends with your money, you’re Dickmatized!

 •If your stupid-ass baby daddy who doesn't support you nor his child still comes to get some pussy and you agree fully to it, you are chronically Dickmatized!

•If you are a single mother and you allow this man to come bang you when your kids or kid is around, you are stupid, and you're also dickmatized [please don't traumatize children with sexual drama I beg]

•If you have a 'Husband' who pretends he is depressed for lack of job for the last 13years, he sleeps all day, you pay all bills, the kids school fees plus his small sister's college fee, and still give him depression allowance because he is great in bed anyway, Woman, you've been dickmatized!

•If he gives you nothing more than YOUR bedroom match and his praying-mantis styles on fleek, then after he leaves all you feel is sadness and emptiness, you are Dickmatzed!

•If he hasn't married you but beats you, black and purple for not cooking on time, then dicks you immediately and you smile and forgive him, you are under the Dickspell!

•If when he threatens to leave, you cry and kneel to beg, when he doesn't do anything else for you including changing your bulbs, you've been severely Dickmatized!

•When he only visits you once in three months and you still throw him a birthday party that he gets late to show up for or even doesn't show up at all, girl you’re Dickmatized!

•If he asks you to hide in his closet because his landlady is knocking, and you still insist on giving him your freaky self the next day, girl, you are so Dickmatized!

•If he lives in Kisumu and you travel all the way from Kiambu to go be dicked every weekend, you're very Dickmatized!

•He came into your life and you abandoned your family & friends? you're Dickmatized!

Good sex i mean a good D, after a long dry-spell period can impair your judgement and you’ll agree to every foolishness the thug tells you and makes you do. You’ll agree to threesomes and other things you swore you couldn’t ever do before. 

Most women are sex starved so when they land on a moron with a big D, they lose it, they get stuck like glue. These men know when we are starved, they can smell it that’s why Harry's Team Mafisi sacco exists, they know what we want and how much, and how to control us. 

Yearning for the D is what we call, Being dick hungry, you don’t care how dirty the thug is, you only care for his hung man’s, you look at his huge hands, his big shoe, his giant thumb and you start perceiving that for huge D and your brain convinces you that the D is here to smash you forever and maybe, just maybe, after you give him your hungry pussy, he will fall in love with you instantly! Bad news is, men do not operate like we do, they can have sex with 100 women with zero attachment unlike us, we have sex and immediately feel like they are our soul mates.

I have no issues with Good Ds, I love me a good D I love me a good game with a wholesome person not only some mere D, it heals my body & mind. That's our natural sacred God-given body call tricking us to procreate, but we shouldn’t let these big Ds control our thinking and decision making at all.


The Dick can get you all stupid, but now that you know, watch out, if he has nothing to offer, doesn't treat you with love and affection, doesn't respect you, he gives you nothing more than his Dick, his pierced ears and an ass crack showing from his skinny jeans, get out of it,
Dickmatization works like voodoo it can have you eating crumbs when you can afford gluten free bread, but the good thing is, you can get out of it when you use your brain well.

Do not suck up-to a good dick, look for a man who has  a full package, the guy with only a D to offer only adds to your stress and loneliness. There are good men out here with full package for you, leave the noodle eating men on viagra alone! Nothing beats a good D in combination with a good brain, it is hard to find, but its there, its not so flashy, you will need to pay good attention and have some good brain too....

...and there's an opposite for everything you have a tight-ass vagina, just like he has his D, if he ain' stepping up, step out, life is unfair and ONLY YOU can make it fair for yourself. Give him a good pussy work and if he doesn't treat you right, tell him to beat it or you can beat it as well! Walk! Go! Get A Life! A perceived good dick is not everything, peace is, love is.


Yo' Girl,

©Njoki-ThatGoodBadGirl™2016