Sex is good for your health and good for your psych! But only with some people not everyone will give you this satisfaction.
Girl, first, sex is not love for men, he doesn't love you, rarely do we "love" in a few hours nowadays. Lady, you went in blindly, I only expect girls to go in on ONS then think later when they're 18, 19, and 20 not grown women at 25 and over! Second, when he picks you at a bar, he assumes you’re parading your ass at the bar so that you can be picked!
People will have sex instantly for various reasons, for women; its Love or the imitation of it, it’s the emotion that the guy is the one, or it could be materially thought out after spotting him counting dollars, and even out of pity. Yes, a woman can sleep with you if you've really tried to get laid without any luck, after treating her so well; she might not exactly love you but will have sex with you out of feeling sorry for you.
Girl, you do not really love the man in question he doesn't love you either, you just met for a few hours, you got your brains fucked over, you acted desperate and called, he lied he'll be travelling, it’s your fault, you scared him away, am certain he thought you understood that you’re just a sex mate and that’s it.
Men will agree with me that they rarely take you seriously when you meet at the bar, they equate you to the call girls waylaying customers at the bar and that’s just that. [If at all he gave you cab fare, you are just that a hoe to him, a serious man will drop you home, was it in some lodging? Worse! ] Confirm with them.
Dear girl, having met at the Brew- I bet Bistro….some white skin deceived you, I bet you dreamt of interracial babies, getting into that plane...bad news he just wanted a vessel to break his nuts into, and there you brought yourself in a silver plate, fork and knives...this kind of high passion where you do not really know each other but the emotions of LUST are riding sky high always comes down to a halt and crashing, just like yours has, you saw him he smiled at you and you instantaneously perceived that as your soul mate. Am sorry but it just doesn't work that way.
Most times, men go hunting for ONS, so to this guy, you're just a NUMBER he hit and forgot, most men crave sex most times and a couple of others all the time, so we can even bet he cannot remember anything you told him that night, I can bet he cannot remember what you were wearing either.
Let’s face it, it’s very difficult to bring a relationship to any other level when it begun with sex. If only you knew each other for a while! ain' nothing better that talking first, getting to know each other’s life, then having sex later in all AWARENESS, its much more fulfilling!
If you’re going to have a hook up, have it and forget about the guy! One night stands cannot build an instant marriage that you're secretly dreaming of leave alone a relationship. To this guy, you became a hook up, and that was it, you will never be the lady he cuddles with, the lady he takes out, the one he kisses passionately, you are the one he just came in, a mere "fuck buddy" and that’s about it, so cry, count your losses and your twatness and move on. In fact if you hadn't been the one to call him, he would have called you to have more sex, just sex, with no strings attached, but you spoilt it for him and now he has to fake that his passport has expired.
OH! He said he will call? NEWS! THEY ALL DO! So calm your titties, he did not intend to call, that’s just a line everyone uses, I even drop it on people who won’t stop talking when I want to leave or when I want them to friggin leave already!
Girls, the “I DON’T USUALLY DO THIS” line does not work, when you agree to have sex with him 120 minutes into meeting him, whether you swear in your mommas name you do not usually have sex on the first night or not, he will not believe you, he will only act like he does, men in their reptilian mind, believe that minute you agree to sex within hours of meeting, that is what you do all the time with ALL men. Let no one cheat you that this mindset has evolved, it hasn’t no matter how immoral the people are getting. Get that!
Girls, sex on the first date imply short termed fun and not a loving marriage! So don’t put your imaginary babies in this basket. I bet men like getting serious with women they meet sober and with their clothes on, because we need a proper foundation, sex rarely build lasting relations, although not impossible, don't put your hopes on it.
This guy just wanted to rub off his sexual steam and you let him, so live with it. You let yourself be used, it can’t be that bad, and you had fun too I imagine…
Why women should NOT participate in ONS;
-ONS are never satisfactory, women involve emotions, ONS is where women fake Orgasms, and imagine the guy will fall in love after seeing how wide we can open their mouths when screaming
-It will leave you feeling stupid very very loose, especially when the guy doesn’t call or follow up after the nasty action!
-It makes your self-esteem go a bar low when you start thinking why the dude is not calling you after you gave in. You start thinking maybe your ass was stinking last night and that’s why he did not text
-It makes you actually fall into the ho’ zone, guys won’t tell you but they have this zone, for the women they can sex anytime, far from the zone of women they can seriously take to their mother
-ONS will not bring forth devotion from the man, no matter how new age or fashionable you think it now is, no matter how fair he speaks, no matter how he says he won't judge, he freakin will judge you!
-Women cannot separate sex and feelings, so quit playing a pigs game, you’ll stink!
-It will leave you feeling disgusted and much unfulfilled or even suicidal!
-men will usually have fun with the hot and sexy, then marry the safe and innocent!
-Men are sexual hypocrites, they will have a ONS sex with you, no matter how fly you feel,then later talk about you in the crudest ways you can imagine!
-To men, its just action, the thrusting and ejaculating, period. To him you’re usually some little pump and dump!
Women only pretend to be okay with ONS but they are not, so stop pretending and get to know a guy’s second name before opening your legs for him. See, men will sleep with women they do not like, women they are not even their type [like husbands who do their dirty housemaids], and women who do not even sparkle any attraction in them, unlike women. One night stands gives men a bragging right of just how many women they can easily take to bed, don’t get yourself to be used just to make a cute as a cat guy feel masculine and confident.
Don't use sex as bait to get a man to love/like you. It has proven to fail. It’s always safer to wait till you are in a defined relationship to have sex, otherwise you will be gambling with both your feelings and private parts, or just have responsible sex with a person you know, a person whom you’re in clear cut terms with, a person you can have sincere- without faking orgasms, a person you are on the same page emotionally with to avoid issues later on. Believe me, Sex will always be better with someone you can trust, someone you’re passionate about and someone who feels the same about you.
Girl, if you have a pattern of getting disappointed with men or get bitter when they disappear on you after ONS and NSA sex-escapades, you should probably stop it already. You’re not cut out for bed hopping!
This man was thinking with his penis, and after he was done, he started using his brain, and evidently the brain advised him to run from you. To him you were just a walking vagina and he was a vagina predator.
By the way, the Emotional bullshit you are experiencing now is caused by the chemical oxytocin, that lovey-dovey attachment high will eventually go.
...And, you actually ditched your friends to go get dicked? you probably deserve the outcome!
Finally, have your walk of shame, the guy had a walk of triumph.....and Lady, you just had a friggin' One Night Stand, a No Strings Attached sex, stop making a wedding out of it. You came, he came, game over.
Yo' Girl,
©Njoki-GoodBadGirl™
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