Slut-Shaming Cheryl

Model Photo Credit:Harry Hirani Photography

Now that the storm has calmed down, please leave Sheryl alone, stop texting her, stop calling her a hoe, stop trolling her social media, men have sex all the time even with women double their ages and no one calls them names, but not me, I do call them whatever they present themselves to be, if a woman is  a slut for having two boyfriends one her age and the other older, men are sluts too if they act the same. On this note, girls, remember that you cannot change a man-hoe into a husband, he gon' cheat on your ass till you get a heart attack...and he'll probably leave you a widow coz the many women in his life will poison him.

If there's anything Sheryl can be accused of, it can only be the two timing, of which I hear her boyfriend says that he's okay with it. Sheryl and her boyfriend seem to have been in an open relationship where people can have other partners when they wish to, so see, its none of your business what men women choose to DO business with.

But WAIT! What did you expect out of Sheryl when you are busy GLORIFYING the Nairobi Socialites, making them famous everywhere, making them role models on TV, praising them for "dreams and goals well achieved"... "women who get paid for going out on dates with wealthy men"..."women who say they are paid to go show up at a club and pole dance a  bit" ... "women who appear almost nude on music videos" when the men are warmly dressed in the January heat, seriously people, what do you expect the little girls at 20 years old to think these too many young girls stuck like glue at 21 in Nairobi are getting money from? Money to wear expensive Brazilian hair weaves, drive big cars, go on vacations from USA to Nigeria and so on. 

In any case, there's nothing wrong with dating an older man, in fact its the most acceptable thing in the world, little girls have been married off in Kenya to old Mzees down in the villages and YOU people do not talk about that part since its not juicy enough to destroy someones self esteem huh... and you're here insulting Sheryl for getting a man with a 20 year age gap just because the man was "Rich and Famous" and now dead, who cares! 

When individuals date partners who are years apart, much older or younger than them, its never so much about age disparity but about the maturity levels of parties involved. Haven't we seen Hollywood celebs marry older men everyday? 

Girls, go date granpa' if you like them old, wrinkled and grey, whatever your cuppa tea, go have it, these boys got sugar mummies everywhere breastfeeding them, driving their cars and no one is shaming them, at least you can give an old man children, will you boys give the old women tadpoles?

Some of the men who are speaking on this issues are actual men-hoes who sleep with different women every day, the half-pints in campus who've slept with the whole hostel block, whippersnappers who are living in older women's houses and no one calls them the name they deserve! Women are human too, they love sex as much as you men do love it, we are human and get the same feelings of lust and desire, give this girl a break!...On this note I hope Sheryl used the big money to do big things like buying a piece of land, paying for  her education, and not buying phones and make up so that she can have something to smile about as you unreasonably insult her.

Girl's who are busy shattering Sheryl world, shame on you, you are 'sufferings' & just jealous people who got issues within, and since you have no avenues of getting 'rich' men to fund your luxuries so as to live - as broadcast by National TVs; Hudah and Sidika does, you're getting bitter and coming all over social media to slut-shame this poor girl! Just leave Sheryl alone! Its not like the billionaire was a boy, and whats wrong when a Billionaire decides to throw his money around willing women who are over 18?...Sheryl wanted an older man and there's nothing wrong with this, teenagers have been marrying 50 year olds since Satan was a toddler, if y'all were so righteous am waiting to hear you shame the old men who marry teenagers in your village!

I know the girl's who are hatin' can't wait for when a rich man will be hittin' their Inbox for a hook up! Well, evidently...

People get a life and let Sheryl spend her 'pension' in peace! Harassing her wont pay your bills! TSK! 


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This Line "I Have A Boyfriend"!

The way some girls like replying to guys who greet them with "I have a boyfriend" you'd think this "boyfriend" is some deadly lion, you'd think this "boyfriend" has already met her parents and proposed, you'd even think that this "boyfriend" is that 'fanya fujo uone' cop working the guy in the green hoodie.

This is the scene; You're beyond 25 you have this dude that you go "out" with, get wasted and have mad sex with and swallow emergency pills for so that you do not disrupt his life with "an unwanted baby". This boy is probably 32 years old, you have never discussed the terms of your relationship or whatever you are both into, nor where its supposed to be going, both of you have no discuss-able relationship goals, you're just there, a cycle of going out, getting drunk and having sex, he has never mentioned, leave alone promised to marry you or allow you to move in for a 'comewestay'. This little shaver doesn't even know where you actually come from, leave alone your middle name. He comes to your house for all the fun, you do not know where he lives neither where he came from before landing to your hostel room at Ngara.

If such a boy has not shown any signs of taking your relationship into another level, please don't go yapping to other men that are attracted to you and showing interest in you with respect, with how much "you have a boyfriend". 

When you're truly NOT interested in some dude, don't say you have a boyfriend as if this boyfriend you have is some Tear Gas, just tell the guy to eff off.  That boyfriend you're busy making a choir about is just that, a boyfriend, who could be a passing wind. 
Sometimes the guy who's hitting on you will be ugly AF or just stinking dirty, and there's nothing hard in telling the bloke that you're not interested upfront instead of wasting time. Tell the truth instead of some cooked convenient lies just to feed your 'I have a man' ego.

So why are you helping your said boyfriend 'claim you' when he hasn't made you his official girlfriend? you never know when he's going to kick yo' ass to the curb for a fresher chick. To spare yourself future loneliness please date other people as long as you do not think, dream, foresee any light of future togetherness at the horizon with the one you are currently sleeping with, as long as he has not TOLD you that you're HIS, as long as he has not proposed asking you to be HIS, keep the "I have a boyfriend" line to yourself.

When it doesn't 'feel' like its going anywhere, its definitely not.

If you have the aforementioned kind of a boyfriend that you're unsure of;

•When a gentleman out here asks to buy you coffee, lunch & dinner, don't decline. Go eat!
•When a gentleman asks for your name, don't insult, answer!
•When the gentleman asks for your number, give him the one without whatsapp!
•When a cute guy at a bar/restaurant asks to sit at your table, let him!
•When a guy greets you. Be mature & answer correctly, do not go with' I have a man'...You never know he might just have the best conversation stimulation you've ever experienced! 

There are mature ways of letting a guy know that you're taken and you can always do that when you're down at the Java taking that coffee that he bought. Don't just violently ignore people, you never know where you might meet them.

Some of these guys who risk getting your 'I have a boyfriend' song  were just passersby who were just appreciating your existence. They know you might have a boyfriend who's taking you for granted and they just want to give it a shot at making you smile. Furthermore any man you talk to and laugh with doesn't have to be your husband, he can be the best male friend you've ever had.

Give the Mafisi's some slim chance. Hear them out. You might brush off a soul mate, because, in any case, if this boyfriend you have was that serious about you, he'd make sure you know about his seriousness, he'd make things simple for you and give you some certainty in being his woman.

I have found out that men do not care even after you narrate how much you have a boyfriend, to most of them it sounds like "Challenge Accepted" it sounds like "Well, lets see" 

Food for thought: do you sincerely think your boyfriend announces to every beautiful girl he meets out here that he has "you"? do you....?



Your Girl,
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