The way some girls like replying to guys who greet them with "I have a boyfriend" you'd think this "boyfriend" is some deadly lion, you'd think this "boyfriend" has already met her parents and proposed, you'd even think that this "boyfriend" is that 'fanya fujo uone' cop working the guy in the green hoodie.
This is the scene; You're beyond 25 you have this dude that you go "out" with, get wasted and have mad sex with and swallow emergency pills for so that you do not disrupt his life with "an unwanted baby". This boy is probably 32 years old, you have never discussed the terms of your relationship or whatever you are both into, nor where its supposed to be going, both of you have no discuss-able relationship goals, you're just there, a cycle of going out, getting drunk and having sex, he has never mentioned, leave alone promised to marry you or allow you to move in for a 'comewestay'. This little shaver doesn't even know where you actually come from, leave alone your middle name. He comes to your house for all the fun, you do not know where he lives neither where he came from before landing to your hostel room at Ngara.
If such a boy has not shown any signs of taking your relationship into another level, please don't go yapping to other men that are attracted to you and showing interest in you with respect, with how much "you have a boyfriend".
When you're truly NOT interested in some dude, don't say you have a boyfriend as if this boyfriend you have is some Tear Gas, just tell the guy to eff off. That boyfriend you're busy making a choir about is just that, a boyfriend, who could be a passing wind.
Sometimes the guy who's hitting on you will be ugly AF or just stinking dirty, and there's nothing hard in telling the bloke that you're not interested upfront instead of wasting time. Tell the truth instead of some cooked convenient lies just to feed your 'I have a man' ego.
So why are you helping your said boyfriend 'claim you' when he hasn't made you his official girlfriend? you never know when he's going to kick yo' ass to the curb for a fresher chick. To spare yourself future loneliness please date other people as long as you do not think, dream, foresee any light of future togetherness at the horizon with the one you are currently sleeping with, as long as he has not TOLD you that you're HIS, as long as he has not proposed asking you to be HIS, keep the "I have a boyfriend" line to yourself.
When it doesn't 'feel' like its going anywhere, its definitely not.
If you have the aforementioned kind of a boyfriend that you're unsure of;
•When a gentleman out here asks to buy you coffee, lunch & dinner, don't decline. Go eat!
•When a gentleman asks for your name, don't insult, answer!
•When the gentleman asks for your number, give him the one without whatsapp!
•When a cute guy at a bar/restaurant asks to sit at your table, let him!
•When a guy greets you. Be mature & answer correctly, do not go with' I have a man'...You never know he might just have the best conversation stimulation you've ever experienced!
There are mature ways of letting a guy know that you're taken and you can always do that when you're down at the Java taking that coffee that he bought. Don't just violently ignore people, you never know where you might meet them.
Some of these guys who risk getting your 'I have a boyfriend' song were just passersby who were just appreciating your existence. They know you might have a boyfriend who's taking you for granted and they just want to give it a shot at making you smile. Furthermore any man you talk to and laugh with doesn't have to be your husband, he can be the best male friend you've ever had.
Give the Mafisi's some slim chance. Hear them out. You might brush off a soul mate, because, in any case, if this boyfriend you have was that serious about you, he'd make sure you know about his seriousness, he'd make things simple for you and give you some certainty in being his woman.
I have found out that men do not care even after you narrate how much you have a boyfriend, to most of them it sounds like "Challenge Accepted" it sounds like "Well, lets see"
Food for thought: do you sincerely think your boyfriend announces to every beautiful girl he meets out here that he has "you"? do you....?
Your Girl,
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