Well, people are hungry for love out here, people do not want to love those that they know, their friends; yet tell us loving best friends is the best thing huh... they want to love their imaginary lovers; The Online mates. I'm not saying that it’s a bad thing to seek and find the elusive love online, but it should be done cautiously. It can get dangerous; you can end up dating a killer- who will trap and hurt you, a psycho too, and most of all, a 'lover' who will talk you into spending heavily on them.
Beware of falling too deeply in love before meeting them!
Westerners or rather 'old wazungus' are the ones that get Catfished mostly by black people from Nigerian and Ghana, you will bear me witness from the messages you get in your Facebook spam boxes with west African 'women' asking you to contact them via their email and that they like you and that they would like to know you better...ring a bell?....once you start that conversation with them, you get in hook line and sinker, they will convince you into doing things you’d otherwise not do. [Don't believe me? watch shows like Dr.Phil]
I have seen Wazungus spend millions on lovers they have never met...like seriously how daft can people get...? Don't be one of them! People do inbox me on FB asking me if I think they are being duped and 100% of they time they are being duped, especially when it comes to sending cash. Imagine yourself sending cash to someone who refuses to chat with you on Whatsapp on the basis that they do not have the App! and they claim to be in America or Britain.
It’s okay to want to find love online, it is okay to find it, it’s just like meeting elsewhere, what matters is what you do after meeting online.
How do you know someone is Catfishing or Fooling You?
•They cannot tell you where they work or live
•They won’t agree to meet due to various convincing reasons
•They will ask you for help by feeding you their serious problems first
•They are too perfect
•They have only 1 or 2 photos where they are just by themselves, no tags, no friends
•They will tell you they work in the American army, have 1 child and they're seeking love after their wife died from cancer, it’s always cancer.
•They will tell you they're on a peace keeping mission in Liberia, Senegal or Congo
•Later...on they will ask you to help them with a few dollars ‘to test if you really trust them’…and since [women] want this man to trust them, they send money via western union to a soldier in Liberia SMH
Those who catfish women are mostly "white guys" -I imagine some Nigerian in a Calabar cyber
Those who catfish men, represent themselves as white "rich" women online, and they mostly do not know your true gender when spamming you with these messages...they just send and wait for you to come in and reply....
The catfishing and phishing morons cast their nets as wide as possible, they will inbox you on Facebook, on your Gmail spam box, even your office email, and when you are acting desperate and greedy enough to want shares in money you never made, you will fall into their trap and really waste yourself. . In Nigeria, they are called 419ners- they ask you to assist them to transfer cash from their dead husbands account...bla bla bla …don’t be a fool enough to transfer money for people you do not know, it’s a money laundering crime. The 419ners are known world wide, if you don't know them, well, you heard it here first. :)
The 419ners are the same thing as the Phishing guys, who only seek your bank info using granma stories, they ask you for address and lie to you that have some money which they want to divide and give you half if you agree to give them your bank account number, credit card details and suchlike information...sound familiar? Am sure almost everyone has got this kind of messages online. If you fall for it, well, you're a greedy fool just to be honest...
To Avoid Being Catfished, Fooled and Or Wasting Time With Online Lovers;
Ask to meet them live, at an open place.
-Meeting them will stamp their credibility, them creating excuses frm here to mombasa on how impossible it is to just meet, should be a red flag!
-Meeting someone will make you see their true self and you'll know whether you like how they chew their food or whether they stink of tobacco upclose
-meeting someone as soon as you start imagining you love them will spare you some bad heart break, I have seen people who fall in love online over 1 year, they never meet and when they eventually do, they person is short, darker, uglier than sold out.
End it with Strangers Who Ask For Monitary Assistance!
-Not that money is a big deal, but people who go 'begging' for cash online are not straight people to me, how can someone just think you're some ATM and that you can pay their rent from the minute you replied their hi greeting?
Google them!
-When someone is really real, they will tell you their real names, so check them out, if there’s zero on search, then they do not exist, if the name exists but with different images, then Sister, you've been played!
-You can search them via their photographs on google, when fake they appear on multiple sites that they said they’re not into, that should be a huge red flag. These fraudsters steal photos online!
Catfishers are always inquisitive
-They first ask you what work you do, how many kids you have, trying smoothly to learn everything about you, so that they can use it against you later on, to play with your emotions. If you think am lying, go ahead and answer one catfisher and see the flow of communication…Plus they give you complements first thing!
Most of all, you just cannot afford to act stupid online, be realistic in everything you do, and people you are 'lusting' after. We have Skype, ask to speak to them live just to be sure, and to your surprise the man who told you he is in Liberia for peace keeping mission will tell you he doesn't have bundles right after you send him cash for "buying a mobile phone" always trust your intuition, when it smells like a decaying rat, its always a decaying rat.
Girls, I know you have fallen for this, be careful or you'll be sending all your hard earned money to some thug in Lagos, thinking you're helping your Alejandro get cleared at the border to come marry you as soon as the 'border' cops are done with him, after which he will ask for fuel cash because all he is carrying is in dollar currency and he doesn't really want to waste time visiting a bureau to exchange lest he gets late to get to you, since you are busy waiting for him at the AG for the "wedding". At that time you are not even asking yourself why your Alejandro has an Mpesa line!
Beware! or be Square!
Its Yo' Girl,
©Njoki-GoodBadGirl™ 2016
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