Of Faux Besties, Faux Amis And The Real Deal

From The Art of Worldly Wisdom “A wise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from his friends.”

Always Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, cuz it actually does, you got to love yourself before anything else, otherwise your relationships wont work in all angles of it...sometimes we get pressing personal issues and on looking around, there's no one to hear us out or help us with that particular thing, even those you party with are nowhere to be seen. Its that that moment that you realize that you're on your own, you've been on your own, and unless you're calling peeps for a party or for a drink, no one will be showing up for you in the time of trouble and struggles. 

People are not honest not even with themselves, so don't expect that quality in everyone you laugh with. Remember that 96% of the time, your best friend Has a best friend, who has a best friend, so you're or you maybe just another option. Keep your circle small or avoid by keeping it short and sweet. Most of these people don't really like you, they don't help you grow, they'll use you, discuss you, laugh at your pressuring problems then shamelessly come over to give you a hug. Love these people all you want, but live without expectations from them, haven't we seen family members running from their loved ones? same with close friends? who run when you get sick or when your "kingdom" falls? baseline is, all these people may betray you in the end. They say, if you want success don't tell your strategy to friends, your enemy will know and beat you to it. You just never know who is in sheep's skin.

Truth is; real people do not have lots of friends since most people will not like you when you tell them their shit in their face. When you have good bottomless flow of money and got loads of friends, chances are that your money has attracted them, call them rented friends, once you are out of the money, they walk out on you. Have it in mind that your group of sycophants can at any time turn into hungry hyenas and devour you to your end. You have to have the right set of eyes to know when your friends are just bullshitting around you. Haven't you seen a cocoon of "friends" using one of them badly?  using their money, borrowing their clothes, borrowing loans that are never refunded...etc?  It's too common, and the foolish one lets it happen, as long as she/he has some company, of which is complete foolery and bullshit, (bad) friendship don't pay bills or keep businesses running.

1.Friends who don't tell you when other people are discussing you, are not good friends, instead they chime in and wholeheartedly contribute to your fall.
2.Friends who never return things they borrow from you are "allowed thieves", complete moochers drop 'em.
3.Friends who take your stuff without your permission are pests. fumigate them.
4.Friends who always tell you how fat you look every-time are not supportive, leave them. they should help you get to the gym or get good clothes to fit your body.
5.Friends whose values and interests are not even close to yours, will not grow you, they'll waste your time especially when they have zero ambitions to charge them up. 
6.They only contact you when they need something, a crying shoulder?  or when you're throwing a party? they're just users. block 'em crisis callers.
7.When they're unreliable, why should you be reliable to them?
8.People who betray you in all angles, are not good friends. setting you up to whom ever and stuff.
9.People who tell your husband/boyfriend stuff you did 5 years ago, whether they're drunk or not, are not proper friends. kick 'em out
10.Friends who practically live in your house with zero contribution, and very comfortable to even brings guys/girls over without your permission, are just ticks, throw 'em out! 

Those who Detract, Discredit you, Distract you from important things, Minimize you, Extract your stuff, Dispose your ideas instead of listening first, Destroy your image in front of the multitude, Depreciate and Devalue you while still kissing your cheek are not friends worth your keeping.

Know people...take note on those who remain on your side when you are completely down and out. Real friends don't watch you sink in the Quicksand.

Sincerely
Njoki-TheGood-BadGirl