Is there anything in earth's existence that has created the acceptance of short termed relationships like social media? So short that you barely get to know his/her second name! Online networking is great, but people have abused it's easiness and its convenience. Its gotten so unreal such that its comes out all weird and creepy when someone who likes you asks for a real meet up over a cup of tea. People- the millennials, have encroached so much into "social media space" such that a 27 year old better be 'sofalizing or deskalizing' "sentiment-ing" all day long than go out there and meet his/her friends in real life, it has became all about texting and slumping all day long on smartphones.
Its even not a surprise that someone has 4,999 friends on Facebook, 10,000 followers on twitter and in real life these person has one or no friends at all. I call this living a lie since it gives you false attachments on non-existent friends. [If you want to know if your over 3ooo Facebook friends are really friends call for monetary contribution]. This false breeding of the feeling that we are "speaking" and talking" to people online has made young people unable to communicate well in a face to face situation, very few people can keep an eye contact, but the same is well kept with their phones! very few young people can construct a correct English sentence out loud, which is all broken in text with the "ow r u's and 'hae xwirry' silly lingo. No matter how many types of social media that have been created and shall be created in coming days, nothing will ever ever replace an up close, personal and candid face to face conversation between persons leave alone couples!
***It has become so difficult to get a real boy/girlfriend, i mean- the real dating and courting has been coined into an exchange of hundreths of selfies! all guys are doing nowadays is asking of your boobies pics and when the desperate for attention girl sends them, that closes their "trust" deal. They send each other nudes, the dick pics and whatnot's and that becomes a real "situation-ship" in their minds. Each create images of each other that they wish to be.
The only meeting these two will have will be a sex meeting, which will be quick- unemotional-empty sex so that they can get time to check-in on Facebook and tell the "Facebook Family" where they are at which should be "in bed with my man/bae" while others make sex tapes to post on YouTube in a stance to look for the Kim kardashian kind of fame which came from making a sex tape. After sex, the relationship goes back to facebook inbox and whatsapp, the boy never calls, the stupefied girl never asks and it carries on till one of them is bored enough to seek out another hotter prey on their friendlist,the hunt continues and it goes in a circle once again.
Its very easy to "fall in love" online, with a guy who copy pastes sweet paragraphs of poems to your inbox, this false but strong as wine connection forms and bonds very easily and it can be a real disaster when the two people decide to meet and see that they are very different versions of what they both 'envisioned' of each other. Since the large group of the millennials knows how it works, trust nowadays has become a totally different story which is marked by "don't show my nudes to anyone" kind of rubber-band promises.....which don't really last two days since when you go showing your best friend a funny pic on your phone, they scroll to the next and break your "promise" by showing the images you promised not to rat out on.
I personally find online dating as shallow, if i am to date someone i better be seeing him 4 days a week where possible and or at least talk everyday, that gives me closeness and the more i get to know someone, the more i fall for the man, i never want to 'picture' my partner, i want to see him, know him, analyze him, understand him, and not just judge him by his Facebook status and the Whats app status - this kind of relationship is chronically BORING and with very little depth! And anyone delving into it must be too desperate and surrendered to go seek and settle for a real life, fulfilling, satisfying, complete relationship that makes sense and not the too available unworthwhile apparitional "relationships".
Its actually sad for a 25y.o who hasn't dated a real person, and continues to play along with the online partners and their wicked fetishes. A good number of girls are actually happy having a boyfriend who is in 'Pluto' and promises to come "next year" to meet her, of which the next year doesn't really happen in the actual "next year", the only communication they have is Skype where the foreign guy asks her to strip dance for him and that gives them organisms and their "situation-ship" goes on till the little dazed lady realizes this was just a game, she's wasted 3years with which she could have dated a real person in her hood and gotten somewhere. Its a waste of time and emotion to invest in a online 'relationship' which only crushes you in the end when there are so may single people out here who still have their heads together!
Yeah.. yeah.. yeah... i know Technology is awesome, it makes life easier and faster and it does make people ludicrous-with high non existent expectations, lazy and crazy in everything including dating, courting and the general relationship. With technology you meet a lot of people and you are never serious with any of them since you want to try all since "supply" seems to be good enough to want to "take all" home. Online relationship make commitment look like a joke, such that you can start an intimate relationship like phone-sex and break it off tomorrow without an itch since the two individuals in such a case dont owe each othet anything since they barely know each other real names!
When a guy asks to meet a girl for an innocent date to get to know her, the chick decides the guy just wanna get laid, and since she's not sure she like's him, she declines an innocent "i just wanna meet you date", in other case the chick decides he wants to get laid and brings condoms along- which is actually a good precaution by the way... whilst when a girl innocently accepts to meet a guy from Facebook or even Twitter DM, the hungry man decides the pretty lady want some D too, and will definitely spread her legs that day/night, this is a very shallow way of seeing things- I believe in socializing, and people do not have "to be in love" or to be "infatuated" with each other to share a table for lunch or some ice-cream, to me having an open mind is meeting people for socializing purpose, you might be very surprised when your assumptions of a certain person are nullified by the evidence you see and hear for your self.
Real life relationships do not necessarily make relationships easier, but they make them healthier and worthy by giving them a chance for commitment and openness. Staying online can very well deny you a real social life, waste your time, and frustrate your fantasies.
Sincerely,
Njoki, TheGood-BadGirl
Its very easy to "fall in love" online, with a guy who copy pastes sweet paragraphs of poems to your inbox, this false but strong as wine connection forms and bonds very easily and it can be a real disaster when the two people decide to meet and see that they are very different versions of what they both 'envisioned' of each other. Since the large group of the millennials knows how it works, trust nowadays has become a totally different story which is marked by "don't show my nudes to anyone" kind of rubber-band promises.....which don't really last two days since when you go showing your best friend a funny pic on your phone, they scroll to the next and break your "promise" by showing the images you promised not to rat out on.
I personally find online dating as shallow, if i am to date someone i better be seeing him 4 days a week where possible and or at least talk everyday, that gives me closeness and the more i get to know someone, the more i fall for the man, i never want to 'picture' my partner, i want to see him, know him, analyze him, understand him, and not just judge him by his Facebook status and the Whats app status - this kind of relationship is chronically BORING and with very little depth! And anyone delving into it must be too desperate and surrendered to go seek and settle for a real life, fulfilling, satisfying, complete relationship that makes sense and not the too available unworthwhile apparitional "relationships".
Its actually sad for a 25y.o who hasn't dated a real person, and continues to play along with the online partners and their wicked fetishes. A good number of girls are actually happy having a boyfriend who is in 'Pluto' and promises to come "next year" to meet her, of which the next year doesn't really happen in the actual "next year", the only communication they have is Skype where the foreign guy asks her to strip dance for him and that gives them organisms and their "situation-ship" goes on till the little dazed lady realizes this was just a game, she's wasted 3years with which she could have dated a real person in her hood and gotten somewhere. Its a waste of time and emotion to invest in a online 'relationship' which only crushes you in the end when there are so may single people out here who still have their heads together!
Yeah.. yeah.. yeah... i know Technology is awesome, it makes life easier and faster and it does make people ludicrous-with high non existent expectations, lazy and crazy in everything including dating, courting and the general relationship. With technology you meet a lot of people and you are never serious with any of them since you want to try all since "supply" seems to be good enough to want to "take all" home. Online relationship make commitment look like a joke, such that you can start an intimate relationship like phone-sex and break it off tomorrow without an itch since the two individuals in such a case dont owe each othet anything since they barely know each other real names!
When a guy asks to meet a girl for an innocent date to get to know her, the chick decides the guy just wanna get laid, and since she's not sure she like's him, she declines an innocent "i just wanna meet you date", in other case the chick decides he wants to get laid and brings condoms along- which is actually a good precaution by the way... whilst when a girl innocently accepts to meet a guy from Facebook or even Twitter DM, the hungry man decides the pretty lady want some D too, and will definitely spread her legs that day/night, this is a very shallow way of seeing things- I believe in socializing, and people do not have "to be in love" or to be "infatuated" with each other to share a table for lunch or some ice-cream, to me having an open mind is meeting people for socializing purpose, you might be very surprised when your assumptions of a certain person are nullified by the evidence you see and hear for your self.
Real life relationships do not necessarily make relationships easier, but they make them healthier and worthy by giving them a chance for commitment and openness. Staying online can very well deny you a real social life, waste your time, and frustrate your fantasies.
Sincerely,
Njoki, TheGood-BadGirl
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