Relationships form our societies, some shallow ones perceive relationships as only the sexual relations, But relationships live with us, have been with us and relations and relationships wont go anywhere anytime soon. Though nowadays the real relationships have been replaced by "Sofalizing" instead of socializing in real which is a breakdown in formation of relationships.
One Important relationship is Family. Family is core to human development, and a proper level family at that. Your family, talking of the nuclear family can be your downfall, or your rise. Parents and siblings can ride you down to the lanes of heaps of embarrassments and poverty if you just allow it and when you are too good to them. As i always insist, any good stuff without limits will kill you just like the bad stuff will. There must be some certain discipline and boundaries we must keep as grownups for people [family and friends] to know where not to step or contribute with those unwarranted opinions and control. Blood relations are not always as thick as we perceive, family can exploit you with stress and pressure till you've nothing left for them to devour.
We all have lazy or 'not so lucky' friends who expect that just because we are doing a staircase or two better than then in life, they shall live off us, and when you don't contribute to their usual cry frequently, they get all moody on you as if they are your teenage children. And actually if you are such a friend, shame on your ass. Go get your money and stop mooching on your friends, this earth owes you nothing at all after 18, In fact your own parents do you a very huge favor by taking care of you even when you are a good 25yea old.
I have met such friends who expect you to mother them just because you have a job and they don't. They make this expectation an obligation!~ and its so annoying, one such character who used to "ask" for airtime frequently just because i then worked in some bank...thought i earned the whole Barclays profit, i used to be too nice, and people took advantage of my sugar and spice... when i had had enough i just let her know to her face, she got so mad that she 'unfriended" me in all social media, which in return i blocked since anyway, who needs suckers like that?! With such characters as your friends, you never develop, the still broke, the still looking, the still trying with evidently no trying is happening. And with these kind of people around you, you are not helping them by giving them frequent and fat 'handouts' you are enabling them! Friends can be locked out and nearly forgotten when they get annoying and too demanding.
When your friends become your energy and blood vampires dump them like you're late! Family is yet another big bite. Family members can crush you and actually kill you for your own sweat! When your four jobless alcoholic brothers demand you pay their kids school fees, pay their rent, and cloth them , while your eight sisters where 6 of them have children at home and very jobless and not even trying, expect the same thing, you can die at an early age.
Take a closer look at our African football star Adebayor. Look at the shameful turmoil that his family has been putting him through! These are the perfect examples of family members that crucify you when you are still breathing, they crucify you just because you are doing great , because you share a blood line and a last name. They feel you owe them every dime you make and you must pay them for being their family member! Seriously Africans? If Adebayor's siblings will find their way to this article, SHAME ON YOU for wringing and sucking the energy out of your own brother! God is watching you closely ooh!
Now on, Adebayor should just grow a spine and say how things must operate, not just sitting pretty and letting his lazy and opportunistic siblings get away with it! If he must, he should give all equal 'maintenance' if only quarterly as a gift not some big time commitment! The only 'commitment' of a monthly maintenance would be toward his rather ungrateful conniving mother! The rest of them can actually go to hell, especially those that he opened businesses for, gave huge amounts of cash and five years later, they have nothing to show of it! Otherwise after his short football career comes to an end, he will be as broke as if he never worked at all in his entire life.
When you are the provider, you have to set boundaries and let things run on your terms and not let relatives step allover you and blackmail you over your hard earned money. I am not saying you should let your family members sleep hungry, but have a level understanding on how things must run on your ruling as the sole provider, and the sibling who feels its too much can go hustle upwards too. Its such a shame that our very own siblings can sit their black ass down and demand you help them all through their life just because you got luckier!
People will test your boundaries slowly by slowly, just to see up to where they can nail you to their cross, and it goes up and in as much as you let it happen. [even toddlers do that] So, Toughen up!
Believe me , people got nerves!
The point is, in Family & Business Relationships, being too good, might - will eventually screw you over!
Sincerely,
Njoki-TheGood-BadGirl
One Important relationship is Family. Family is core to human development, and a proper level family at that. Your family, talking of the nuclear family can be your downfall, or your rise. Parents and siblings can ride you down to the lanes of heaps of embarrassments and poverty if you just allow it and when you are too good to them. As i always insist, any good stuff without limits will kill you just like the bad stuff will. There must be some certain discipline and boundaries we must keep as grownups for people [family and friends] to know where not to step or contribute with those unwarranted opinions and control. Blood relations are not always as thick as we perceive, family can exploit you with stress and pressure till you've nothing left for them to devour.
We all have lazy or 'not so lucky' friends who expect that just because we are doing a staircase or two better than then in life, they shall live off us, and when you don't contribute to their usual cry frequently, they get all moody on you as if they are your teenage children. And actually if you are such a friend, shame on your ass. Go get your money and stop mooching on your friends, this earth owes you nothing at all after 18, In fact your own parents do you a very huge favor by taking care of you even when you are a good 25yea old.
I have met such friends who expect you to mother them just because you have a job and they don't. They make this expectation an obligation!~ and its so annoying, one such character who used to "ask" for airtime frequently just because i then worked in some bank...thought i earned the whole Barclays profit, i used to be too nice, and people took advantage of my sugar and spice... when i had had enough i just let her know to her face, she got so mad that she 'unfriended" me in all social media, which in return i blocked since anyway, who needs suckers like that?! With such characters as your friends, you never develop, the still broke, the still looking, the still trying with evidently no trying is happening. And with these kind of people around you, you are not helping them by giving them frequent and fat 'handouts' you are enabling them! Friends can be locked out and nearly forgotten when they get annoying and too demanding.
When your friends become your energy and blood vampires dump them like you're late! Family is yet another big bite. Family members can crush you and actually kill you for your own sweat! When your four jobless alcoholic brothers demand you pay their kids school fees, pay their rent, and cloth them , while your eight sisters where 6 of them have children at home and very jobless and not even trying, expect the same thing, you can die at an early age.
Take a closer look at our African football star Adebayor. Look at the shameful turmoil that his family has been putting him through! These are the perfect examples of family members that crucify you when you are still breathing, they crucify you just because you are doing great , because you share a blood line and a last name. They feel you owe them every dime you make and you must pay them for being their family member! Seriously Africans? If Adebayor's siblings will find their way to this article, SHAME ON YOU for wringing and sucking the energy out of your own brother! God is watching you closely ooh!
Now on, Adebayor should just grow a spine and say how things must operate, not just sitting pretty and letting his lazy and opportunistic siblings get away with it! If he must, he should give all equal 'maintenance' if only quarterly as a gift not some big time commitment! The only 'commitment' of a monthly maintenance would be toward his rather ungrateful conniving mother! The rest of them can actually go to hell, especially those that he opened businesses for, gave huge amounts of cash and five years later, they have nothing to show of it! Otherwise after his short football career comes to an end, he will be as broke as if he never worked at all in his entire life.
When you are the provider, you have to set boundaries and let things run on your terms and not let relatives step allover you and blackmail you over your hard earned money. I am not saying you should let your family members sleep hungry, but have a level understanding on how things must run on your ruling as the sole provider, and the sibling who feels its too much can go hustle upwards too. Its such a shame that our very own siblings can sit their black ass down and demand you help them all through their life just because you got luckier!
People will test your boundaries slowly by slowly, just to see up to where they can nail you to their cross, and it goes up and in as much as you let it happen. [even toddlers do that] So, Toughen up!
Believe me , people got nerves!
The point is, in Family & Business Relationships, being too good, might - will eventually screw you over!
Sincerely,
Njoki-TheGood-BadGirl
nice piece of work..keep up
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