Who in their right head does this here? shame on you!
It's real and it's happening, just like abuse of children is publicly happening and publicly demonized [and yes child abuse should not be entertained at all] ... abuse of parents is happening, only that parental abuse is a silent epidemic and it doesn't get out of families or reported that easily since parents do not want to embarrass their seemingly "perfect" children's image - who are the sole providers of medication especially, and or to avoid embarrassing themselves for not raising their children well. We have rallied for abused children, husbands and women, why not abused parents as well?
The verbal, physical, emotional abuse, the shoving, kicking, back talking, spitting, yelling and insulting own parents should not even exist in this society, not with our African traditions and taboos. In fact, i cannot keep a friend who disrespects, insults their parents to their faces, it’s just bad, how can i even trust you? i don't know about you, but i can't deal with it.
"Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you" - Deuteronomy 5:16 . I know parents can be abusive too, but why go along, just walk out, its better that way...
People nowadays have decided that just because they have three degrees, just because they have been in a plane, just because they have ten cars, and several lovers, just because they no longer eat 'githeri' and ugali as breakfast, just because they only speak perfect English and their parents cannot, young people think that they can insult, curse, walkaway & forget, and throw things at their old mother and father and walk away into a good life unscathed.
It's very normal to conflict and quarrel with parents BUT, its never right to get the abuse back and forth with them, it's never worth the trouble. This is almost the only time you should practice "giving the other cheek" wisdom. We forget that we are getting older and we shall be helpless, frail parents just like our parents are, and this earth belongs to God, and karma walks, everything you do to your parent, you must pay for it, not because your mother cursed you, but because that's how nature works.
We go ahead as children and take sides, its fine; but there's a certain age that you get the gist of what’s going on, that’s when you get to feel how hard relationships can get, and you quit taking sides on your parents. When they fight, don't take sides and gang up to beat/kill the other, just chill and talk to the 'bad one' nicely, since, to them you're a kid and you really don't know the truth of the matter.
Our parents are human too, they get on our nerves with their unending talk and same old advice, but hey! you don't have to tell them to shut up, parents are always 'right' in their right as parents, you do not have to do as they say, just listen and then go do as you please when you go to YOUR house. Some parents are drunkards, but we do not have to beat them up or kill them, when you can't take their abuse or unending troubles, leave quietly, when parents beat you up, just get up and go your way - [they will pay their own price] talk to someone and let it all out and move on, when you're annoyed, just roll your eyes [when they're not looking :) ] ...but refrain from throwing a hot cup of boiling porridge your mothers face just because she asked you why you're not married yet. That's an insult to them, forget not that Beating up your mom and dad is unacceptable and inexcusable and a tear from a father or mother can ruin your entire future - whether it applies in your culture or not.
People in the city wonder why they have got good education, but very bad luck with managing the huge amount of money they get as a salary, they wonder why their relationships never work, or even why getting or sustaining a job becomes a battle...people forget that when they walked out of the village, they pushed their old mother aside, she fell and broke a rib when she asked to get a water tank, they forget they insulted their old dad when he asked for money to buy medication. It’s an abomination to lift a finger against one's parent... And this kind of bad omen can only be broken when you apologize to your old folks by acknowledging your faults and being sorry for them. A pastor praying for you won’t help you much if you haven't acknowledged your wrongs first.
When you abuse your parent/parents you present;
•Total Immaturity, you look chronically stupid and you haven't grown up enough to manage your feelings and stresses despite your age
•Disrespect, you have no respect for the elderly , not even your parents.
•You've got issues - that you haven't sorted and your parents are the only scapegoats and you have a serious mental problem.
•Self-esteem issues -you have failed to get it together in your life and you're making your mother pay for it
•Control freak - that can only control old people and not yourself
•Selfish- you come off as a self-centered rat that wants to get everything, their way, from old helpless elders!
•••If you're an abuser, just grow the hell up!
Handle your personal frustrations quietly. Be humble and be nice to your parents so that it can be well with you. Your parent can bless or curse you - a parental blessing is very important. Therefore, love and obey your parents, for this is the first commandment with a promise. If you are a believer; The Bible says, "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise—"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth" Eph 6:2
No matter what your mother or father does or says to you or even insults you or even slaps you for no reason, you will NEVER get sympathy for beating/insulting/killing them. If you live with your 'pain in the neck' kind of parents [they exist-and they are a real pain i know] ...just move out. When you stay away from each other, you'll be able to respect each other's boundaries. Distance works.
I'm not here to teach you how to live your life, but to remind you; what goes around comes around and, 'Karma' is a scorned "bitch" and it makes sure that you pay IN THIS LIFE what you do in this life.
Sincerely
©2015 Njoki-TheGoodBadGirl
It's real and it's happening, just like abuse of children is publicly happening and publicly demonized [and yes child abuse should not be entertained at all] ... abuse of parents is happening, only that parental abuse is a silent epidemic and it doesn't get out of families or reported that easily since parents do not want to embarrass their seemingly "perfect" children's image - who are the sole providers of medication especially, and or to avoid embarrassing themselves for not raising their children well. We have rallied for abused children, husbands and women, why not abused parents as well?
The verbal, physical, emotional abuse, the shoving, kicking, back talking, spitting, yelling and insulting own parents should not even exist in this society, not with our African traditions and taboos. In fact, i cannot keep a friend who disrespects, insults their parents to their faces, it’s just bad, how can i even trust you? i don't know about you, but i can't deal with it.
"Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you" - Deuteronomy 5:16 . I know parents can be abusive too, but why go along, just walk out, its better that way...
People nowadays have decided that just because they have three degrees, just because they have been in a plane, just because they have ten cars, and several lovers, just because they no longer eat 'githeri' and ugali as breakfast, just because they only speak perfect English and their parents cannot, young people think that they can insult, curse, walkaway & forget, and throw things at their old mother and father and walk away into a good life unscathed.
It's very normal to conflict and quarrel with parents BUT, its never right to get the abuse back and forth with them, it's never worth the trouble. This is almost the only time you should practice "giving the other cheek" wisdom. We forget that we are getting older and we shall be helpless, frail parents just like our parents are, and this earth belongs to God, and karma walks, everything you do to your parent, you must pay for it, not because your mother cursed you, but because that's how nature works.
We go ahead as children and take sides, its fine; but there's a certain age that you get the gist of what’s going on, that’s when you get to feel how hard relationships can get, and you quit taking sides on your parents. When they fight, don't take sides and gang up to beat/kill the other, just chill and talk to the 'bad one' nicely, since, to them you're a kid and you really don't know the truth of the matter.
Our parents are human too, they get on our nerves with their unending talk and same old advice, but hey! you don't have to tell them to shut up, parents are always 'right' in their right as parents, you do not have to do as they say, just listen and then go do as you please when you go to YOUR house. Some parents are drunkards, but we do not have to beat them up or kill them, when you can't take their abuse or unending troubles, leave quietly, when parents beat you up, just get up and go your way - [they will pay their own price] talk to someone and let it all out and move on, when you're annoyed, just roll your eyes [when they're not looking :) ] ...but refrain from throwing a hot cup of boiling porridge your mothers face just because she asked you why you're not married yet. That's an insult to them, forget not that Beating up your mom and dad is unacceptable and inexcusable and a tear from a father or mother can ruin your entire future - whether it applies in your culture or not.
People in the city wonder why they have got good education, but very bad luck with managing the huge amount of money they get as a salary, they wonder why their relationships never work, or even why getting or sustaining a job becomes a battle...people forget that when they walked out of the village, they pushed their old mother aside, she fell and broke a rib when she asked to get a water tank, they forget they insulted their old dad when he asked for money to buy medication. It’s an abomination to lift a finger against one's parent... And this kind of bad omen can only be broken when you apologize to your old folks by acknowledging your faults and being sorry for them. A pastor praying for you won’t help you much if you haven't acknowledged your wrongs first.
When you abuse your parent/parents you present;
•Total Immaturity, you look chronically stupid and you haven't grown up enough to manage your feelings and stresses despite your age
•Disrespect, you have no respect for the elderly , not even your parents.
•You've got issues - that you haven't sorted and your parents are the only scapegoats and you have a serious mental problem.
•Self-esteem issues -you have failed to get it together in your life and you're making your mother pay for it
•Control freak - that can only control old people and not yourself
•Selfish- you come off as a self-centered rat that wants to get everything, their way, from old helpless elders!
•••If you're an abuser, just grow the hell up!
Handle your personal frustrations quietly. Be humble and be nice to your parents so that it can be well with you. Your parent can bless or curse you - a parental blessing is very important. Therefore, love and obey your parents, for this is the first commandment with a promise. If you are a believer; The Bible says, "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise—"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth" Eph 6:2
No matter what your mother or father does or says to you or even insults you or even slaps you for no reason, you will NEVER get sympathy for beating/insulting/killing them. If you live with your 'pain in the neck' kind of parents [they exist-and they are a real pain i know] ...just move out. When you stay away from each other, you'll be able to respect each other's boundaries. Distance works.
I'm not here to teach you how to live your life, but to remind you; what goes around comes around and, 'Karma' is a scorned "bitch" and it makes sure that you pay IN THIS LIFE what you do in this life.
Sincerely
©2015 Njoki-TheGoodBadGirl
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