I am Njoki, a grown woman and these are #LessonsLifeHasTaughtMe
The reality is, you cannot, you're not allowed to sit there, cry and blame a man for breaking your heart into those small pieces that even doctors have a hard time mending back together.You cannot tell the world that man hurt you, when all he did was let you know he is NOT that in you! The poor guy used all the methods he knows by treating you like crap and you just never got a load of it!
God made man first according to the good book and its only after the woman came that things went haywire, in fact, I've not yet read anywhere in the bible where an angel is a woman, you know why? we females just don't listen! Men are so great to have around such that if i could, i would have more, more than morally recommended. I have more male friends in real life than i have females. Men are beautiful creatures despite the fact that; the genitals are the only erotic part, unlike us, women are erotic head to toe! in-spite of this, women all over the world have refused to recognize the fact that they are the PRIZE they have everything a man wants, and do not have to BEG for love and attention from some guy!
You see, men are fascinating! their money is ours, they take us out, buy us stuff, give us babies, showers us with gifts, gives you stupid butterflies, and when a man wants to break up with you, he doesn't tell you bluntly like girls do via text with friends surrounding over to wait for the reaction from the other end reason being he doesn't want to appear bitchy, since he doesn't want to "hurt" our little red girly hearts, he plays this hide and seek game until you get it by all by yourself by reading the "atmosphere" between you two.
These guys will take you in circles, disappear and re-appear in your life like magic- only when you allow it, play the endless "no communication" the "nilikua Namibia" "nilipoteza simu" games, play the blame game, make you feel guilty for his mistakes and finally, stealthily Makes YOU 'Dump' yourself which automatically becomes your fault according to him! Guys love it if it's you who left and not them, since they do not want to look bad.
Men. Are. Brutally. Unkindly. Honest, it's just that we do not want to come into terms with the reality of what they give us! we do not consider their hard, true opinions and we do not want to 'respect' their actions towards us! Men will accord you with point blank side shows, very sincere, But hey! we are females, and we don't like that; We don't like to hear the guys or take things as they are since we have a specific way we have forecasted and visualized that things must and will happen in our relationships and nothing else is allowed to interfere with the prophesy!
Guys SHOW us the Truth; like: he wont call you- you're not worth the damn trouble, wont text you; you're not worth his seconds...wont contact you after a date; because he simply didn't like you! wont return your calls in time; to kill any attachments you may have started having! Then he blankly tells you that you're adding weight too fast! which is not attractive, and its usually because he doesn't like you anymore!,wont let you meet his friends, ignores you, insults you and your intelligence, only *Booty* Calls you when he is idle, [and YOU actually still show up] and remember even if he calls to come to your place, its still a damn BOOTY CALL!
Then the ninja knows very well you're now 33 and you really want marriage to happen asap but he avoids the topic like plague, the damn man gets angry at the mention of meeting your parents.This guy who has never shown proper respect for you, he drops a BOMB and says he hates kids while you're a single mom! or says your three year old daughter is kind of annoying, and you don't Quit this one way traffic relationship! Seriously, this man shouldn't ever be blamed for breaking a woman's heart since he told and showed all his truth.
Then after all he has done to kick yo' ass outta his business you sit dissect, vivisect, suss out his LOUD behaviors and finally justify his actions! and you go ahead to debate this issue with yourself and settle on the fact that it must have been you! even with everything this clear, YOU apologize to him for his wrongs and still give him the Mommy Love he did not ask you for! Lord have mercy on you!
We cling and choose to ignore these important Signals and its no wonder we have so many relationships "accidents". In-fact when some of us- the clingy women folk go back to get laid by this kind of dudes the second and the third time, the fella is surprised we didn't just get it after-all, he finally gets the balance of making sure you're neither in or out of his life and he settles with that's the quality of love and affection you want since you are still around after he treated you like shit!
See, Most guys wont easily reject free sex from an "attractive woman" as long as you offer it, and since he put you into a fence zone and you readily accepted it anyway, He's good to go. Lady,Thou Shalt Not Say, You Were USED, you brought in yourself in a silver plate!
See; A person who doesn't love you the way you love them is worthless, stuff got to be mutual...If he does NOT provide today, he wont start tomorrow. If he don't take you along on night outs, he wont start next weekend - when you finally have sex, if he never ever calls you, he wont start just because you slept with him, But since this beats the alternatives of going back to the pool, to "dating start-line" and status change to single....you'd rather stay on and put up with the foolery!
Cut The Bullshit. Move On To The Next Bus. Bullshit is truly Underrated!
Sincerely,
Njoki-GoodBadGirl! ©2015
The reality is, you cannot, you're not allowed to sit there, cry and blame a man for breaking your heart into those small pieces that even doctors have a hard time mending back together.You cannot tell the world that man hurt you, when all he did was let you know he is NOT that in you! The poor guy used all the methods he knows by treating you like crap and you just never got a load of it!
God made man first according to the good book and its only after the woman came that things went haywire, in fact, I've not yet read anywhere in the bible where an angel is a woman, you know why? we females just don't listen! Men are so great to have around such that if i could, i would have more, more than morally recommended. I have more male friends in real life than i have females. Men are beautiful creatures despite the fact that; the genitals are the only erotic part, unlike us, women are erotic head to toe! in-spite of this, women all over the world have refused to recognize the fact that they are the PRIZE they have everything a man wants, and do not have to BEG for love and attention from some guy!
You see, men are fascinating! their money is ours, they take us out, buy us stuff, give us babies, showers us with gifts, gives you stupid butterflies, and when a man wants to break up with you, he doesn't tell you bluntly like girls do via text with friends surrounding over to wait for the reaction from the other end reason being he doesn't want to appear bitchy, since he doesn't want to "hurt" our little red girly hearts, he plays this hide and seek game until you get it by all by yourself by reading the "atmosphere" between you two.
These guys will take you in circles, disappear and re-appear in your life like magic- only when you allow it, play the endless "no communication" the "nilikua Namibia" "nilipoteza simu" games, play the blame game, make you feel guilty for his mistakes and finally, stealthily Makes YOU 'Dump' yourself which automatically becomes your fault according to him! Guys love it if it's you who left and not them, since they do not want to look bad.
Men. Are. Brutally. Unkindly. Honest, it's just that we do not want to come into terms with the reality of what they give us! we do not consider their hard, true opinions and we do not want to 'respect' their actions towards us! Men will accord you with point blank side shows, very sincere, But hey! we are females, and we don't like that; We don't like to hear the guys or take things as they are since we have a specific way we have forecasted and visualized that things must and will happen in our relationships and nothing else is allowed to interfere with the prophesy!
Guys SHOW us the Truth; like: he wont call you- you're not worth the damn trouble, wont text you; you're not worth his seconds...wont contact you after a date; because he simply didn't like you! wont return your calls in time; to kill any attachments you may have started having! Then he blankly tells you that you're adding weight too fast! which is not attractive, and its usually because he doesn't like you anymore!,wont let you meet his friends, ignores you, insults you and your intelligence, only *Booty* Calls you when he is idle, [and YOU actually still show up] and remember even if he calls to come to your place, its still a damn BOOTY CALL!
Then the ninja knows very well you're now 33 and you really want marriage to happen asap but he avoids the topic like plague, the damn man gets angry at the mention of meeting your parents.This guy who has never shown proper respect for you, he drops a BOMB and says he hates kids while you're a single mom! or says your three year old daughter is kind of annoying, and you don't Quit this one way traffic relationship! Seriously, this man shouldn't ever be blamed for breaking a woman's heart since he told and showed all his truth.
Then after all he has done to kick yo' ass outta his business you sit dissect, vivisect, suss out his LOUD behaviors and finally justify his actions! and you go ahead to debate this issue with yourself and settle on the fact that it must have been you! even with everything this clear, YOU apologize to him for his wrongs and still give him the Mommy Love he did not ask you for! Lord have mercy on you!
We cling and choose to ignore these important Signals and its no wonder we have so many relationships "accidents". In-fact when some of us- the clingy women folk go back to get laid by this kind of dudes the second and the third time, the fella is surprised we didn't just get it after-all, he finally gets the balance of making sure you're neither in or out of his life and he settles with that's the quality of love and affection you want since you are still around after he treated you like shit!
See, Most guys wont easily reject free sex from an "attractive woman" as long as you offer it, and since he put you into a fence zone and you readily accepted it anyway, He's good to go. Lady,Thou Shalt Not Say, You Were USED, you brought in yourself in a silver plate!
See; A person who doesn't love you the way you love them is worthless, stuff got to be mutual...If he does NOT provide today, he wont start tomorrow. If he don't take you along on night outs, he wont start next weekend - when you finally have sex, if he never ever calls you, he wont start just because you slept with him, But since this beats the alternatives of going back to the pool, to "dating start-line" and status change to single....you'd rather stay on and put up with the foolery!
Cut The Bullshit. Move On To The Next Bus. Bullshit is truly Underrated!
Sincerely,
Njoki-GoodBadGirl! ©2015
truth be told ,..why they keep following us n yet they know all these,,,till age catches up with them,,
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