I encourage people to inbox me their concerns so i can help where i can, there's someone who wants to find out how she can get her hot Ex back and get him to commit this time round. First, you do not need to try and get an Ex back, he left you for a reason and before he comes back at his own will, you will be wasting your time convincing him you are the best he can do. How do you get him back and make him commit? Girl, YOU DON'T! Period!
We have all struggled, strong men and more so the women have transformed into little lunatics when a break up and a heartbreak crawls and pops in ! we all have distressed trying to get over someone we loved at some point of our lives when younger and even now as grown ups, and I have to admit some breakups are very hard to accept and many people hold on to the hope that the guy or the girl will think twice or fall for the tears and empty threats and come back into love. The truth is you cannot Threaten, cannot Convince, cannot Bribe someone into loving you sincerely. Individuals with low self esteem who feel why cannot survive without the other have got desperate enough and taken very monstrous measures that include murder;
•Making endless calls
•Typing endless texts [without getting any replies]
•Stalking Ex'es on social media
•Talking to their relatives to vouch for you
•Begging friends to do the begging
•Threatening them over and over
•Looking for their new girlfriend and harassing her
All the above leaves you feeling and looking like a complete maniac - after you come back to your senses.
Sometimes these ex'es are the ones who wronged us but the news becomes a bitter pill for our deluded system to absorb and we have no idea how to just STOP acting stupid! You and your friends got to stop doing outrageous stuff and pulling very foolish stunts trying to win an Ex back. He left, leave too. If he will want you, he will come back at his own desire. Y'all need some time out.
Here's how you can try GET OVER your Ex.
1. STOP texting and calling him, this is a no contact method, and when you stop it, you'll not create a room to feel like a moron when he does nor reply, because most wont, especially if you are the one who caused all the trouble. The more you call and text him like a mad person, the more annoying you get and the more he is glad he/she left you. Give him peace and time to heal.
2. STOP stalking him/her! people have gone to the miles of creating fake accounts so that they can keep tabs on their Ex trying to get them back, they trail them, inbox them anonymously just to feel good when replied to. Some go ahead and announce to their 'dirty laundry' on the Ex'es wall! how stupid can a desperate person get! You look like as dumb-ass! just stop it! You end up looking like a certified pyscho in the name of wanting him back.
3. STOP mourning and start dating again, go out and meet other people. You will end up meeting someone you like and who likes you back and the sooner you start dating, the sooner you forget about your ex. You know what? sometimes people are just not meant to be.
4. STOP playing the victim. Do not show the world how the ex has left you deranged, low self esteemed and damaged, stop crying about it - at least not publicly. Admit it has happened and life must go on. Whats the use of crying the whole day and getting ugly looking puffy eyes for a guy who is out there very happy getting laid?
5. STOP threatening the poor guy that you will jump on the rails so that the 6 am train can crush you to death if he doesn't come back. Lets say you actually jump, you'll die, you'll be buried and that man will still have a girlfriend, get married and live happily ever after, because he will have forgotten your stupid-ass, so who is the biggest loser? You!
6. STOP nagging the poor boy! just because the Ex picks up your call does not mean you can nag him over and over, get a life! let him see you from a distance enjoying life! pretend that you are happy, fake it till he believes it, fake your happiness until he starts regretting ever leaving you! Stay away from him as much as possible, get sexy, look hot because if you cry all day get ugly looking eyes, wear ugly clothes and end up looking like a drag queen just because you are 'mourning' for your broken heart, he will be glad he actually left a mad woman. [only mourn for three days max]Trust me.
7. STOP bribing him! I have seen girls get so hurt that they are willing to buy off the Ex back to their lives. You see a girl asking the guy out for dates, buys drinks for the Ex and his friends, just so that the he can see how nice she is and probably change his mind about her. When you go ahead and over text him asking him over, you mother him, you lead him on to stripping you up, get him laid,what you're giving him is a friggin booty call, and he will start liking it more than he likes YOU!
8. STOP treating the Ex like an angel I am a full hundred sure that you have seen your girlfriends who were cheated on by some guy or even beaten up and after the big break up, the girl becomes the one to apologize, transforms into the whacko pursuer, she chases the guy around looking mad as a march hare, all because she believes she cannot do better that the guy he has known for 7 years. These people are the kind that believe they cannot do better than what they have now, they get too scared to try elsewhere and decide that the guy they've known since pre-unit class MUST marry them! and that's final!
The trick here is, you should fight all the selective amnesia we all get carried over by, get rational, look and examine the bad side of this person as well as much as you are rolling in the deep and reminiscing all the good times you had and his good side over and over-which is past, cuz when you balance your thoughts about the other person, you will never ever stupidly worship someone who wrongs you and tricks you into apologizing.
Refrain from worshiping people, respect your individuality by spending time alone if only to find your self. Love is lost everyday. After all, if he was that great a person for you, he wouldn't have left and made you weep, that is, if actually you are an angel as well.
You need to heal your broken system and taking part in all the miserable means above only adds pepper to your bleeding heart! Maybe talking too much is what caused this break up and in the first place and the more you yada... yada... yada... by calling and murderously! texting, you end up giving him a reason to be glad why he/she left you in the first place. Keep calm, maintain some maturity, obey the serenity from within and you will find peace and sense... and in the end, when you acted all cool, looked good, moved on and stayed happy, guess who will think they make a mistake leaving? NOT YOU!
I'm Out!
Njoki-GoodBadGirl ©2015
We have all struggled, strong men and more so the women have transformed into little lunatics when a break up and a heartbreak crawls and pops in ! we all have distressed trying to get over someone we loved at some point of our lives when younger and even now as grown ups, and I have to admit some breakups are very hard to accept and many people hold on to the hope that the guy or the girl will think twice or fall for the tears and empty threats and come back into love. The truth is you cannot Threaten, cannot Convince, cannot Bribe someone into loving you sincerely. Individuals with low self esteem who feel why cannot survive without the other have got desperate enough and taken very monstrous measures that include murder;
•Making endless calls
•Typing endless texts [without getting any replies]
•Stalking Ex'es on social media
•Talking to their relatives to vouch for you
•Begging friends to do the begging
•Threatening them over and over
•Looking for their new girlfriend and harassing her
All the above leaves you feeling and looking like a complete maniac - after you come back to your senses.
Sometimes these ex'es are the ones who wronged us but the news becomes a bitter pill for our deluded system to absorb and we have no idea how to just STOP acting stupid! You and your friends got to stop doing outrageous stuff and pulling very foolish stunts trying to win an Ex back. He left, leave too. If he will want you, he will come back at his own desire. Y'all need some time out.
Here's how you can try GET OVER your Ex.
1. STOP texting and calling him, this is a no contact method, and when you stop it, you'll not create a room to feel like a moron when he does nor reply, because most wont, especially if you are the one who caused all the trouble. The more you call and text him like a mad person, the more annoying you get and the more he is glad he/she left you. Give him peace and time to heal.
2. STOP stalking him/her! people have gone to the miles of creating fake accounts so that they can keep tabs on their Ex trying to get them back, they trail them, inbox them anonymously just to feel good when replied to. Some go ahead and announce to their 'dirty laundry' on the Ex'es wall! how stupid can a desperate person get! You look like as dumb-ass! just stop it! You end up looking like a certified pyscho in the name of wanting him back.
3. STOP mourning and start dating again, go out and meet other people. You will end up meeting someone you like and who likes you back and the sooner you start dating, the sooner you forget about your ex. You know what? sometimes people are just not meant to be.
4. STOP playing the victim. Do not show the world how the ex has left you deranged, low self esteemed and damaged, stop crying about it - at least not publicly. Admit it has happened and life must go on. Whats the use of crying the whole day and getting ugly looking puffy eyes for a guy who is out there very happy getting laid?
5. STOP threatening the poor guy that you will jump on the rails so that the 6 am train can crush you to death if he doesn't come back. Lets say you actually jump, you'll die, you'll be buried and that man will still have a girlfriend, get married and live happily ever after, because he will have forgotten your stupid-ass, so who is the biggest loser? You!
6. STOP nagging the poor boy! just because the Ex picks up your call does not mean you can nag him over and over, get a life! let him see you from a distance enjoying life! pretend that you are happy, fake it till he believes it, fake your happiness until he starts regretting ever leaving you! Stay away from him as much as possible, get sexy, look hot because if you cry all day get ugly looking eyes, wear ugly clothes and end up looking like a drag queen just because you are 'mourning' for your broken heart, he will be glad he actually left a mad woman. [only mourn for three days max]Trust me.
7. STOP bribing him! I have seen girls get so hurt that they are willing to buy off the Ex back to their lives. You see a girl asking the guy out for dates, buys drinks for the Ex and his friends, just so that the he can see how nice she is and probably change his mind about her. When you go ahead and over text him asking him over, you mother him, you lead him on to stripping you up, get him laid,what you're giving him is a friggin booty call, and he will start liking it more than he likes YOU!
8. STOP treating the Ex like an angel I am a full hundred sure that you have seen your girlfriends who were cheated on by some guy or even beaten up and after the big break up, the girl becomes the one to apologize, transforms into the whacko pursuer, she chases the guy around looking mad as a march hare, all because she believes she cannot do better that the guy he has known for 7 years. These people are the kind that believe they cannot do better than what they have now, they get too scared to try elsewhere and decide that the guy they've known since pre-unit class MUST marry them! and that's final!
The trick here is, you should fight all the selective amnesia we all get carried over by, get rational, look and examine the bad side of this person as well as much as you are rolling in the deep and reminiscing all the good times you had and his good side over and over-which is past, cuz when you balance your thoughts about the other person, you will never ever stupidly worship someone who wrongs you and tricks you into apologizing.
Refrain from worshiping people, respect your individuality by spending time alone if only to find your self. Love is lost everyday. After all, if he was that great a person for you, he wouldn't have left and made you weep, that is, if actually you are an angel as well.
You need to heal your broken system and taking part in all the miserable means above only adds pepper to your bleeding heart! Maybe talking too much is what caused this break up and in the first place and the more you yada... yada... yada... by calling and murderously! texting, you end up giving him a reason to be glad why he/she left you in the first place. Keep calm, maintain some maturity, obey the serenity from within and you will find peace and sense... and in the end, when you acted all cool, looked good, moved on and stayed happy, guess who will think they make a mistake leaving? NOT YOU!
I'm Out!
Njoki-GoodBadGirl ©2015
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