When i went to sit with some younger girls, we went down to discuss who they think a Mr. right is, and they all were into the mere physical and material qualities; those unimportant ideas of qualities which most of us never grew up out of, the tall, the dark, the handsome, comes from rich family, has great dental formula, has side burns, has nice hair, soft hands...etc We all struggle at some point trying to determine whether a guy is really right for us, and whether that chick is just the right one. The only way to know is by paying attention to their character when they are with you and how they make you feel. People can only put up an act for so long...especially an act to pretend they're in love with you. Don't look so much at the instantaneous chemistry you have, chemistry washes away with time, its just a hot feeling, but the 'character' stays. Chemistry is more like overly lusting over someone too much that you think you're in love.
The Mr. Right, That Perfect guy for you is not the wealthiest guy in the city, the most handsome in the city, the guy with the sinewy biceps, neither is he the guy with the best job post in the city. The perfect guy cannot be the most handsome and rich man who treats you like crap, who beats you around, who makes you feel worthless, who makes you feel as thou you should be grateful that you met him, some guy who never communicates, never texts you back, always unavailable, but available after 10pm, NO. When you get the combination of the most handsome, the wealthiest who prioritizes and respects you, count it as a blessing, that combination is not easily found.
Mr Right is that guy that makes you feel naturally beautiful, makes you feel like a woman, makes you feel like the world is both yours, makes you forget the existence of other more handsome men out there. The perfect guy protects, values you and prioritizes you, the perfect guy does not make you chase him just to satisfy his bottomless ego, the perfect guy dates you properly and respects you as a person. Your Mr right should be the most handsome man in YOUR own standards, and not your friends opinions. When you are with your Mr. Right, you are able to slide with ease to be your true self.
From experience, the richest, the most good looking people, naturally charming, well spoken, is the type of evil individuals that will privately mistreat their partner, will degrade, insult, humiliate, get violent and make their partner keep quiet about it, this type of a guy makes their partner live their life practically walking on eggshells, they get too careful not to "make him/her angry" not to make any mistake in fear of being punished. With this type, there is no freedom, the victim stars as a prisoner in their own life. This happens a lot and most individuals especially women feel they are too high on the class or have filthy rich husbands so much that they cannot attempt to let it be known or walk out lest they embarrass their family or lest "people" discover they've got issues too. A month of freedom is way better that a lifetime of imprisonment. Choose well, you don't live for others to see, but for thyself. These type of partners are not good for anyone with self esteem or who respects and loves themselves.
The Miss Right; the Perfect woman for you is not the prettiest girl in the crowd, not the smartest in your class, not the popular girl with best packed "ass-sets", its not the girl that can cook all meals in the world, not the girl straight from the village or the one bred from the city, neither is she the one your mama likes a lot. The perfect woman for you is the woman that make you feel complete, makes you feel like the MAN you are, she brings out the greatness out of you, this woman compliments you too, she doesn't murder you with insignificant criticism, she respects your opinion and input, she respects your individuality, Miss Right, makes you happy without pretense and she is able to tell you nicely when you're wrong without fear, Make you eager to spend more time with her because she just brings the best out of you, one who amazes you with natural intelligence, is attractive according to YOU not your friends... and when you get one with all these great qualities in combination with the prettiest, the most popular, the best cook, count it as a blessing, since no one is as perfect as to possess everything all in one. Every one has a weakness even if they won't talk about it.
Anybody - no matter their great looks, their money, who is a complete douchebag who does not value you, is inconsiderate of your time, who does not give a rats behind about your feelings and opinion, a person who doesn't think twice about humiliating you, a person who makes you feel insecure about your position in their life, the peter pan who is not growing up to progress your relationship after five years of on and off, anybody who has no time for you and is not concerned about what you really do, or where you live, a person who the "good&close" time you can have is only during sex, is NOT a proper partner. Such will emotionally drain you to death.
PS: When it comes to relationships, class and street 'smartness' does not count. Trust me. There's no trigonometry within relationships, but it can get hard when you're not objectively thinking.
Yours Truly,
Njoki_TheGoodBadGirl ©2015
Mr Right is that guy that makes you feel naturally beautiful, makes you feel like a woman, makes you feel like the world is both yours, makes you forget the existence of other more handsome men out there. The perfect guy protects, values you and prioritizes you, the perfect guy does not make you chase him just to satisfy his bottomless ego, the perfect guy dates you properly and respects you as a person. Your Mr right should be the most handsome man in YOUR own standards, and not your friends opinions. When you are with your Mr. Right, you are able to slide with ease to be your true self.
From experience, the richest, the most good looking people, naturally charming, well spoken, is the type of evil individuals that will privately mistreat their partner, will degrade, insult, humiliate, get violent and make their partner keep quiet about it, this type of a guy makes their partner live their life practically walking on eggshells, they get too careful not to "make him/her angry" not to make any mistake in fear of being punished. With this type, there is no freedom, the victim stars as a prisoner in their own life. This happens a lot and most individuals especially women feel they are too high on the class or have filthy rich husbands so much that they cannot attempt to let it be known or walk out lest they embarrass their family or lest "people" discover they've got issues too. A month of freedom is way better that a lifetime of imprisonment. Choose well, you don't live for others to see, but for thyself. These type of partners are not good for anyone with self esteem or who respects and loves themselves.
The Miss Right; the Perfect woman for you is not the prettiest girl in the crowd, not the smartest in your class, not the popular girl with best packed "ass-sets", its not the girl that can cook all meals in the world, not the girl straight from the village or the one bred from the city, neither is she the one your mama likes a lot. The perfect woman for you is the woman that make you feel complete, makes you feel like the MAN you are, she brings out the greatness out of you, this woman compliments you too, she doesn't murder you with insignificant criticism, she respects your opinion and input, she respects your individuality, Miss Right, makes you happy without pretense and she is able to tell you nicely when you're wrong without fear, Make you eager to spend more time with her because she just brings the best out of you, one who amazes you with natural intelligence, is attractive according to YOU not your friends... and when you get one with all these great qualities in combination with the prettiest, the most popular, the best cook, count it as a blessing, since no one is as perfect as to possess everything all in one. Every one has a weakness even if they won't talk about it.
Anybody - no matter their great looks, their money, who is a complete douchebag who does not value you, is inconsiderate of your time, who does not give a rats behind about your feelings and opinion, a person who doesn't think twice about humiliating you, a person who makes you feel insecure about your position in their life, the peter pan who is not growing up to progress your relationship after five years of on and off, anybody who has no time for you and is not concerned about what you really do, or where you live, a person who the "good&close" time you can have is only during sex, is NOT a proper partner. Such will emotionally drain you to death.
PS: When it comes to relationships, class and street 'smartness' does not count. Trust me. There's no trigonometry within relationships, but it can get hard when you're not objectively thinking.
Yours Truly,
Njoki_TheGoodBadGirl ©2015
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