When you choose a guy because he is tall dark and a smashing hunk, while he treats you like a senseless slave and a kick ball, you are the problem.
When you choose a guy just because he is wealthy, while he treats you like one of his boys, never calls back or reply's to texts, YOU are the problem.
When you choose a man just because he has a nice haircut, biceps and a nice butt in the denim, when he humiliates you publicly, you are the problem.
When you are a single mom and you let your new boyfriend hurt your child just because he is cute, you're scared stiff of staying without a male around, YOU! are the freaking problem!
When you are a single dad and you let some woman, hurt your cute child just because she is a HOT light skin, YOU are the problem!
When you are a grown man, you let your nutcase woman embarrass you at your work place cuz she is beautiful, YOU are the problem!
When you are a grown woman and you let a man beat you senseless daily cuz he's foreign, since you can't leave the dollar, YOU are the problem!
When you are the ONLY one who is always doing the forgiving for the whole damned year, YOU are the problem!
When he switches his phone off on you from Friday to Monday morning, and YOU still call him on Monday night, YOU are the problem!
If and when HE lives in your house for free meals, free shelter and free wife services, he is very comfortable while you are feeling crappy and used inside, YOU are the problem sister!
When she still brings along her thirteen girlfriends on a romantic date you invited her, and you still tolerate it, because she is the hottest you've had, YOU are the Problem!
When you always find your self telling his best friend all your relationship problems, girl, you are the problem!
When you are the one who is always crying and working to build the relationship, You are the problem.
When you are paying for HIS degree [coz you're older] while he bums in YOUR house all year, then go to complain to your friends, woman, you are the problem.
When you constantly buy her airtime and she never calls you, ever! You are the problem, sugar daddy!
When its been two years and you have never asked him where the relationship is going , he has not told you the union is exclusive, he has never mentioned "i love you", you have never required him to define your relationship, YOU are the problem.
If you genuinely hate him or her and can't wait for her to go on a trip so that you can cheat, YOU are the problem!
AND....
If they are now in a happy relationship or married after you left them or they left you, and you're still struggling with the 13th girl/boyfriend, YOU are, and you were the problem!
We all have the power over our precious lives, we have the power to decide how and with whom we are spending our days with and we have all the power to refuse all forms of Bullshit!
When you refuse to do Something about the things you do not like, or things that make you feel distressed, dehumanized, minimized, devalued, dejected, depleted and devastated, and you STILL do not take a single step outside that hell hole, YOU are the biggest problem the world of love has. Change happens when you acknowledge you have a problem!
Making sound decisions in your relationships is what they meant by; you create your own happiness.
Sincerely,
Njoki, The GoodBadGirl ©2015
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