Most times when we fall for a guy without knowing him properly, its usually all superficial, and sometimes its too crazy to just ignore, then we go a step closer and know him more, go out on a curious coffee date know a little about each other, hug each other, get to know each others perfumes, and on the 7th date, you spot a ring, only this time he forgot to hide it. This man is handsome , tall like you like them comin', loaded like you imagine 'em, he is just the guy you've been searching for...At this point you're already so frickin' deep into his charms that you just brush the reality of his unavailability status off and its from here that you decide to just take him on, you settle for being his Other Woman. Being his other "steamer" comes with its own bullets and its for the chosen few and those who can squeeze in no matter what.
1.Thou Shall Not... Claim any space, don't demand certain hours or days or holidays are for you. Be humble this guys has other important person/s in his life other than you. Always Know your space & place, recognize your 'scores', take a chill pill. if its the money you want, go ahead, get smart and gather as much as you possible then take a hike. if its a husband. well, you're a lost sheep. forget it, get yours who has no chances of hearing your past, if at all you'd made it public.
2.Thou Shalt Not...Stalk his wife/girlfriend, it only makes you look more stupid than you are already! in fact you got no right whatsoever to hate on his wife/girlfriend...especially when you are the one who came onto him literally. you are actually the thief here.
3.Thou shalt not... Quit dating other people for such man's sake. no matter the excuses no woman on earth likes to be number two, we all want to own a man and keep him for ourselves! So as you"see" him get your own. you might eventually find out that you wasted a lot of time with him- remember such a guy has a running family while you don't. he is well wasting your time.
4.Thou shalt not...Introduce him to your mother this only increases the false hopes of ever getting married. remember you're a side dish, remain as such. don't think of introducing him to any relatives even showing his photos around. someone who knows someone who knows his wife or his other side-chick might tell on you.
5.Thou shalt...Be very Discreet! don't create scenes and scandals! or even Tag him in all your stupid photos on social media, its pretty annoying and embarrassing is he is especially older than you, and remember he doesn't want to be found out. I'm sure he's shown signs of wanting you to be his secret service, anything outside his codes of secret might get your ass thrown out.
6.Thou shalt ... Stay calm and continue feeding on his bullshit if especially you've been building castles on how this dude will leave wife and kids for you. Get in in your head that his is just a chase game, and he is enjoying the thrill of it till whenever, no matter what he tells you it will not end well, someone must get hurt.
7.Thou Shalt Not...Get mad when he makes plans and cancels them indefinitely, and however he pleases, he is not answerable to you. since you've got no future. Girl, your situation-ship so good, you only deal with the present. and caresses.
8.Thou shall not...depress and trip over that attached man who most probably don't give 50% shit about you. If he didn't promise, i mean swear to take you as second wife, be prepared to remain right on the fence. accept and keep on since you chose the problem. Get a life outside him.
9.Thou shall... very much expect other people to nickname you, catcall on you, get angry at you and you cannot get mad. society shall stone and crucify you whether he is the one who lead you on or otherwise eg, side hoe, side chick, home wrecker, husband thief etc, so if you got a "thin skin" attitude, get an elephant skin transplant. this game requires hard players. this happens mostly if you cannot shut your trap about your relationships.
10. Thou SHALL NOT fall in love with this one. if you're about to, or got plans to, ABORT Mission. no matter how much swearing he has done, shit wont work a step. he supposedly fell in love with his wife and he's now cheating on her, the mother of his kids. you don't have to be a detective to notice a pattern here. duh!
11. Thou shall not trust this man, always use a condom, you might not -in fact you're not, the only side fish in his "see". STDs can be embarrassing. You're not even supposed to believe him or anything he spits out of his lying snaky mouth. remember he is cheating with you, HELLO! doesn't that SAY SOMETHING ALREADY?
I know this is an attractive trap we all come across, we fall so deep for some guy, and then voila! he's MARRIED! and he actually pretends he regrets to have been married before meeting you...smh.. we believe we can take it coz that 'stupidity hormone' is on a high octane, this bullshit arrangement isn't easy...
To be a successful smooth Mistress, you have to have some Discipline, Faux class, grow up and leave all your teen manners behind, Be smart and be very very Private about your issues coz you might be abducted and beaten thoroughly on your way out of the Motel.
Otherwise,go home be alone in your room and think real HARD...ask your self if you were made to collect crumbs, when maybe you see your true value, you probably won't chose that lane. coz taking second place begins with not loving and rating ourselves bad and high enough, respectively.
All the same, being a side kick is so much of a hassle, I'd rather we don't settle for it at all. coz who died and left just ten men for a hundred girls to gamble on in this town?
Njoki, The-Good-Bad-Girl.
#TeamNoBullshit
1.Thou Shall Not... Claim any space, don't demand certain hours or days or holidays are for you. Be humble this guys has other important person/s in his life other than you. Always Know your space & place, recognize your 'scores', take a chill pill. if its the money you want, go ahead, get smart and gather as much as you possible then take a hike. if its a husband. well, you're a lost sheep. forget it, get yours who has no chances of hearing your past, if at all you'd made it public.
2.Thou Shalt Not...Stalk his wife/girlfriend, it only makes you look more stupid than you are already! in fact you got no right whatsoever to hate on his wife/girlfriend...especially when you are the one who came onto him literally. you are actually the thief here.
3.Thou shalt not... Quit dating other people for such man's sake. no matter the excuses no woman on earth likes to be number two, we all want to own a man and keep him for ourselves! So as you"see" him get your own. you might eventually find out that you wasted a lot of time with him- remember such a guy has a running family while you don't. he is well wasting your time.
4.Thou shalt not...Introduce him to your mother this only increases the false hopes of ever getting married. remember you're a side dish, remain as such. don't think of introducing him to any relatives even showing his photos around. someone who knows someone who knows his wife or his other side-chick might tell on you.
5.Thou shalt...Be very Discreet! don't create scenes and scandals! or even Tag him in all your stupid photos on social media, its pretty annoying and embarrassing is he is especially older than you, and remember he doesn't want to be found out. I'm sure he's shown signs of wanting you to be his secret service, anything outside his codes of secret might get your ass thrown out.
6.Thou shalt ... Stay calm and continue feeding on his bullshit if especially you've been building castles on how this dude will leave wife and kids for you. Get in in your head that his is just a chase game, and he is enjoying the thrill of it till whenever, no matter what he tells you it will not end well, someone must get hurt.
7.Thou Shalt Not...Get mad when he makes plans and cancels them indefinitely, and however he pleases, he is not answerable to you. since you've got no future. Girl, your situation-ship so good, you only deal with the present. and caresses.
8.Thou shall not...depress and trip over that attached man who most probably don't give 50% shit about you. If he didn't promise, i mean swear to take you as second wife, be prepared to remain right on the fence. accept and keep on since you chose the problem. Get a life outside him.
9.Thou shall... very much expect other people to nickname you, catcall on you, get angry at you and you cannot get mad. society shall stone and crucify you whether he is the one who lead you on or otherwise eg, side hoe, side chick, home wrecker, husband thief etc, so if you got a "thin skin" attitude, get an elephant skin transplant. this game requires hard players. this happens mostly if you cannot shut your trap about your relationships.
10. Thou SHALL NOT fall in love with this one. if you're about to, or got plans to, ABORT Mission. no matter how much swearing he has done, shit wont work a step. he supposedly fell in love with his wife and he's now cheating on her, the mother of his kids. you don't have to be a detective to notice a pattern here. duh!
11. Thou shall not trust this man, always use a condom, you might not -in fact you're not, the only side fish in his "see". STDs can be embarrassing. You're not even supposed to believe him or anything he spits out of his lying snaky mouth. remember he is cheating with you, HELLO! doesn't that SAY SOMETHING ALREADY?
I know this is an attractive trap we all come across, we fall so deep for some guy, and then voila! he's MARRIED! and he actually pretends he regrets to have been married before meeting you...smh.. we believe we can take it coz that 'stupidity hormone' is on a high octane, this bullshit arrangement isn't easy...
To be a successful smooth Mistress, you have to have some Discipline, Faux class, grow up and leave all your teen manners behind, Be smart and be very very Private about your issues coz you might be abducted and beaten thoroughly on your way out of the Motel.
Otherwise,go home be alone in your room and think real HARD...ask your self if you were made to collect crumbs, when maybe you see your true value, you probably won't chose that lane. coz taking second place begins with not loving and rating ourselves bad and high enough, respectively.
All the same, being a side kick is so much of a hassle, I'd rather we don't settle for it at all. coz who died and left just ten men for a hundred girls to gamble on in this town?
Njoki, The-Good-Bad-Girl.
#TeamNoBullshit
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