Call Me Auntie Social, The Miss Communication

I Love one on one communication and when it comes to courting/and or dating it all gets trickier by the day. Dating is getting harder and harder theses days, people tend to really make things super complicated, they don't say things they want to, they just whats-app it alongside a goofy emoticon, almost everyone is shady on their phone-since its easier to say devastating, shameful things on phone than on someone's face. People can no longer make a sound live conversation without looking into their gadgets, and if you're my type that enjoys an all round one on one convo, I'm pretty sure you get annoyed of talking to someone who is giggling at their phones, its such a TURN OFF - Guilty ones. I get pretty annoyed talking to someone who is texting or on Facebook as we vibe without excusing themselves, it gives me a clear cut negative feeling that this person's interest in talking to me is at level Zero and they're better off as Sofalizing freaks. Healthy communication allows us to share our ambitions/goals concerns, open up our fears, share our history, voice our interests and make conclusions about the person-- much better than keeping quiet and guessing it all. Good Communication is connection, you know each other by talking.

I have always said that tradition still holds in many ways that includes Love, Dating, Marriage and Communication. A small mistake with communication can make a potential partner take a forever hike and never come back. Communication goes on even when we don't speak, the body language , tone, posture and the eyes tell their tales, within the silence of two or more people, there is a loud communication that happens when they look at each other wordlessly, there is a "silent" part in us that dissects silence. That non verbal communication is the one that gets believed-and it should be believed. Which makes me conclude, silence in itself is some negative 'communication'. When you go out with some guy; he promises to call you or invite you for another date and he doesn't do that for the next one/two weeks, no he's not busy and didn't die, he is just NOT that interested in you to say something. Take the silence as a cue. Don't stoop your ass to call him to find out if he died in a bike crush, if he died, you'd have known- somehow. Know that silence is tacit communication. Zero communication is also a Tact. An interested fellow initially communicates, just as an interested girl and woman, Responds, positively.

Social media seems to be making things harder everyday when it comes to communication, however this only sways awkward people who do not stand for anything in life, i mean, weak people who go on with the currents and don't stop to think of balancing stuff out. Communication brings a very clear connection and it cannot be ignored, it is very difficult to keep a relationship fire burning between lovers who cannot sit, chat and laugh together, that's a problem alert, since if you cannot communicate, sit and talk about different things, how do you think you will sit and talk about who will pay school fees for the kids, who you'll name your kids after.. when you blindly get married after just chatting on Facebook for two years? that shit don't work- in the long shot. Guys and girls are all great on social media till you meet them, they barely keep a second's eye contact, can't make a comprehensive sentence, can't bring up a topic unless you do it yourself! 

Well, call me Auntie Social again, i love socializing and laughing it out as much, i connect easily with different kinds of people, I'm good with that, it comes natural and i know it, simply because i like hearing different thoughts from the different people. I very well without flinching Disqualify a guy out of my potential long term partner simply because he cannot communicate properly or intelligently. When the only thing a guy frequently tells or -mostly in this era texts you is how great he is in bed, he possesses the biggest D on earth, how hot you look and or what magic orgasms he will give you, on and on, that means that's the Only way he is seeing you, A Sexual Satisfaction Fantasy Experimenting Doll! and if you're a serious case who's on the road to getting a well rounded person for a long term intimate partnership this one here will well waste your minutes...you may want to add the cliches of 'nobody is perfect and we should just accept them as they come...blah blah blah...but hell, you can take it home coz communication is vital even when you're going to see a doctor darling you must communicate sense back and forth. Great convincing Communication is what makes con men prosper in their art of business, same thing with relationships.

Miscommunication or bad communication skills in people come in different hues, like, someone talking all through about themselves-which presents a selfish conversational narcissist, someone who rudely interrupts you in the middle of your contribution-worse when it's in public since it can be intimidating -mission being to downsize you in-front of your or his friends [someone who genuinely loves you wont dare do that to you]. Some will just do the "hot phone sex talk" for 24hrs non stop...[as great as sex is, even in marriage you will never have sex for a full 24hrs, you'll need something to fill the day up with- unfortunately] See, without communication, you will believe rumors and gossip instead of asking or talking to your partner, without communication, you will make extreme assumptions [like assuming he loves you and will marry you just because you had some steamy sex for one day]....How can you fall for a guy who only calls you once a month, or leaves your text convo hanging for weeks then creeps back with a "Hi Dear"... like seriously! That's the highest order of disinterest.

Just imagine the time when you don't call your mom for a week or two [which is bad manners not to check on your parents/guardians], doesn't she call to check on you? to check if you drowned deep into the Nairobi evils?.....Get off that phone and meet someone over for coffee today it's much more fun than texting all through back and forth! beware, smartphones can give you a hunchback and a sore eye.

Proper, Practical Communication in relationships is just like oxygen, our relationships cannot Blossom without it!

Your Thoughts?.....


Sincerely,
 Njoki, TheGood-BadGirl
#TeamNoBullshit