Don't Get It Twisted, Sex Is Just A Thing, Love Is Everything

 "The way you make love is the way God will be with you" is not my saying, its quoted from the famous Rumi, whatever it means......

The beautiful monster, beautiful deception called love is big,  it's amazing and it's a feel good. It makes me feel awesome even when things are pretty much WRONG. It makes all the fine and rare love hormone Oxytocin starts to linger...Its just great. Love its not only the silly feelings we get- the wild butterflies, love is the comfort you get from the other persons trust and care, and the selfless love of Christ is the greatest of all time in History.  Sex is great, but love is better. Sex creates a hormonal connection that disconnects immediately after action, but love creates a mental, physical and spiritual connection. You don't need to be in a relationship to have sex, sex takes care of the physical satisfaction, but to make love, you need some form of relationship to make it happen. Love and making love is deep and genuine.

Love makes you go down with a loser, knowingly, it blinds your judgement against the other persons crimes and dark side, you hangout and share your bed with a common thug, because love happens. When you do not engage your beautiful brain, Love can carry you over, cause you to lose money, lose your property, lose morals and finally lose your sanity. Sex is mostly done at the spur of the moments, to satisfy lust and desperation of penetration, to just get it done, once you orgasm, you'll wait till you're aroused again, you'll wait for a decade to see that guy again, but Love doesn't stop, it goes on and on and on. When you want to make love, you'd prepare some space, your body and your mind and think of the other person. Sex is just an event and an act, love is ongoing, and if its not, its all fake. Love and sex are like wine and keg, respectively, distinctively different, whatever you taste is.

Making love is still having sex , but when you're having sex you're not really making love. Sex merely relieves you in singular, the tension of it all, making love on the other side, involves feelings of two people, involves reciprocation from the two people, with mere sex, it satisfies one person, sex is selfish and almost never mutual.  Making love is mutual where you both aim to satisfy the other, you do not give each other 50:50 ratio of it all , but you give each other 100:100 ratio of everything. Making love makes you one soul, one body, one mind, mere sex doesn't. Sex its a hit and run. Sex is just a release with zero romance involved, its an emotionless, uncommitted instant gratification. Making love is ideal for the
the prolongation of the human race, mere sex does it too, and labels the result as "unwanted babies"

Mere sex happens between strangers, sex is what prostitutes have, they never make love. since this act looks to satisfy the "buyer" of her body and service. Newly weds make love [most] , married people [who truly adore & respect each other] make love on their matrimonial bed. The youngsters that meet at the parking lots and at the club dumpsters in the dark just have sex, quickie sex, hook ups, that can never be making love its just sex, you just poke each others privates and whoever cums first, its game over.
Mere sex comes in the packages of hooks ups, friends with benefits, one night stands, hate sex, ex sex, make up sex, etc. Making love must involve some intimacy and an exchange of it [a spiritual exchange]. This is how the nightly demons makes love to people at night, because they are trading off something into you. Beware.

Having sex doesn't take two to tango, it doesn't even take two to the finish line, it doesnt take two to the bed of satisfaction, it Only takes the needy one, the other party in fact, doesnt really have to agree to it, she only have to believe in the lies and silly compliments then give in to sex hoping the 'event' will bring forth some feelings, even if a little. Mere act of sex comes raw with no foreplay, just shoving himself in and out of you, then leaves as if nothing has happened. I want love, not sex, i can have way better sex while in love, i give my all. To make love, you must engage the head above the shoulder, not the southern, with sex you wont need a brain at all. They say, the best love making takes place in the mind first....Once the sex is done no one cares once its over,

Making love makes you feel alive, sex makes you feel used, and Once you understand the difference of having sex and making love, you'll know where you stand. It's Friday, people definitely gon' be havin' lotsa sex tonight, only few will make it to make some good love, do whatever the hell you feel like! Remember upright and civilized individuals cannot satisfy their sexual needs without Love.

So, Are you having sex, or are you making love....? YOLO.

Sincerely
©Njoki, TheGood-BadGirl.