Looking around what goes on in these estates and apartments, you'll notice those
Women who desperately on time arrive on Weekends to clean their boyfriend's dishes,
10kg of clothes,loads of stinky socks & stained beddings [without the knowledge of who stained them]....dude hasn't even introduced
you to his neighbor leave alone his mother! ...and you later lay your
body for him to Stretch on overtime...then give you a push to the bus stop at 6:30pm...and
gives you 100/= fare, and after all that scrubbing and washing he cannot even buy you
some good lotion or even Arimis milking jelly for your hands!... smh
like really? are you his weekly house-help? 'cause that's exactly what it looks like? ....If you want to be treated like a Respectable Lady, be one, if you want to be treated like "mama kibarua" act one.
There's nothing under the sun you can do to make a guy who isn't interested in loving you, marrying you to actually love you bad enough to marry you__well unless you use witchcraft [which eventually fails anyway]...but he will sure as hell fire USE you when you offer it! Love cannot be forged! and where it is, it's definitely not by playing "mama wa kufua". A man voluntarily loves you mostly on his terms and goes an extra mile to introduce you to his people and asking you to move in with him--which is the only time you can practice wifely duties. Lately, women are behaving like men are going into extinction, i have no idea who has been feeding my kind with all the crap about men being to few for each and every one of us, that's crap. Women are kissing ass every corner, from uncalled for general cleaning of his home, to accepting being his 7th girlfriend knowingly, to standing being physically abused daily!... when i look around i can currently count a good nine that i can count on if i wanted just a husband today. Girls please, no more boyfriend and husband rush in this city.
Let a guy court you properly if he even knows the meaning of courting in the first place, please note courting doesn't mean going to his place and having a one hour sex adventure. Courting includes knowing each other in other ways other than knowing each others private parts. It's learning the other person and calculating as you go whether you can really stay together. But if your courting is just visiting each other, drinking soda, smoking shisha, munching "chips kuku" and finally going home after shagging when you're together, you're on the road to "just fun" which leads to the vast road to nowhere. I believe people should have meaningful relationships, don't parade yourself as desperate and risk being used and dumped. Time is precious don't waste it. If you are still seeing "stuff" today like you were seeing "stuff" when you were seventeen, you're and you've wasted your years. We must grow mentally and emotionally as we go.
People can only be shown how to treat us, and anybody including that dude you think loves you will not refuse it if you go pushing yourself in to clean his clothes uninvited every Saturday. Respect and value yourself first to gain the same from the others. I don't mean that you should let pride carry you over to downfall, but its good to value and know your worth before anything else. You cannot go long pretending to love other people than you love and respect yourself. Your true self eventually surfaces.
Its amazes my grace that some of these desperate girls playing weekend housewives will not even wash a couple of clothes for their mama or sibling. Or even their very own. But washes the minute its a human with a dangling todger with promissory gestures that look like love and a few notes. Bending your back all the way back and acting all needy and sacrificing yourself for unworthy causes like doing laundry wont give you the LOVE and ATTENTION you're dreaming of. Men do what they want, when they want. You can as well wear your tough pants and DO what you want and when you want it.
Even the weakest of men will respect you when you have your own LIFE going on! when you have your own goals and ambitions that you are duly pursuing and not kissing his ass all the time, it gets boring you know. Never assume "the ultimate wife" role. It doesn't work that way. Just imagine if some guy did the same by assuming he is your man and telling everyone and going further to arrange a chiefs office "wedding" without your knowledge, wouldn't you be very annoyed? i thought so... Let him ASK you to be his girlfriend/wife first. That's the rule. And not moving in by sneaking your stuff in one by one, you'll give that guy a hard time trying to kick your desperate sneaky scheming devious ass out when he is finally fed up with your pressurized presence!
At the least don't play housewife when you're merely an acquaintance, a comrade, a "chips funga", or an ally.... that would be more like an Intern trying to play the role of a Manager....looks bad right? Placing yourself on "his girlfriend" pedestal without him proposing the same idea its stooping too low, forcing issues, your only job is to show and keep yourself interested in him and not Bending your knees to propose or bending your good-ass to play "mama wa kufua" to him --I'm almost certain he doesn't like it especially when he hasn't asked you......raise that bar! say no to self inflicted-slavery!... Okay, if you MUST prove you're a wife material, just do the dishes and wipe the table and sit your ass and talk, get to know each others second names for Pete's sake!
Remember just because he muttered a "thank you for doing my...laundry" Doesn't MEAN he Loves you, Wants you at his house unannounced or he appreciated it. Thank you is just that. On a serious note, if you are not at least shacking up together, don't bother playing wife to him by laundry else, you'll remain as such "His Laundry woman"
© Njoki,TheGood_BadGal!
#TeamNoBullshit!
There's nothing under the sun you can do to make a guy who isn't interested in loving you, marrying you to actually love you bad enough to marry you__well unless you use witchcraft [which eventually fails anyway]...but he will sure as hell fire USE you when you offer it! Love cannot be forged! and where it is, it's definitely not by playing "mama wa kufua". A man voluntarily loves you mostly on his terms and goes an extra mile to introduce you to his people and asking you to move in with him--which is the only time you can practice wifely duties. Lately, women are behaving like men are going into extinction, i have no idea who has been feeding my kind with all the crap about men being to few for each and every one of us, that's crap. Women are kissing ass every corner, from uncalled for general cleaning of his home, to accepting being his 7th girlfriend knowingly, to standing being physically abused daily!... when i look around i can currently count a good nine that i can count on if i wanted just a husband today. Girls please, no more boyfriend and husband rush in this city.
Let a guy court you properly if he even knows the meaning of courting in the first place, please note courting doesn't mean going to his place and having a one hour sex adventure. Courting includes knowing each other in other ways other than knowing each others private parts. It's learning the other person and calculating as you go whether you can really stay together. But if your courting is just visiting each other, drinking soda, smoking shisha, munching "chips kuku" and finally going home after shagging when you're together, you're on the road to "just fun" which leads to the vast road to nowhere. I believe people should have meaningful relationships, don't parade yourself as desperate and risk being used and dumped. Time is precious don't waste it. If you are still seeing "stuff" today like you were seeing "stuff" when you were seventeen, you're and you've wasted your years. We must grow mentally and emotionally as we go.
People can only be shown how to treat us, and anybody including that dude you think loves you will not refuse it if you go pushing yourself in to clean his clothes uninvited every Saturday. Respect and value yourself first to gain the same from the others. I don't mean that you should let pride carry you over to downfall, but its good to value and know your worth before anything else. You cannot go long pretending to love other people than you love and respect yourself. Your true self eventually surfaces.
Its amazes my grace that some of these desperate girls playing weekend housewives will not even wash a couple of clothes for their mama or sibling. Or even their very own. But washes the minute its a human with a dangling todger with promissory gestures that look like love and a few notes. Bending your back all the way back and acting all needy and sacrificing yourself for unworthy causes like doing laundry wont give you the LOVE and ATTENTION you're dreaming of. Men do what they want, when they want. You can as well wear your tough pants and DO what you want and when you want it.
Even the weakest of men will respect you when you have your own LIFE going on! when you have your own goals and ambitions that you are duly pursuing and not kissing his ass all the time, it gets boring you know. Never assume "the ultimate wife" role. It doesn't work that way. Just imagine if some guy did the same by assuming he is your man and telling everyone and going further to arrange a chiefs office "wedding" without your knowledge, wouldn't you be very annoyed? i thought so... Let him ASK you to be his girlfriend/wife first. That's the rule. And not moving in by sneaking your stuff in one by one, you'll give that guy a hard time trying to kick your desperate sneaky scheming devious ass out when he is finally fed up with your pressurized presence!
At the least don't play housewife when you're merely an acquaintance, a comrade, a "chips funga", or an ally.... that would be more like an Intern trying to play the role of a Manager....looks bad right? Placing yourself on "his girlfriend" pedestal without him proposing the same idea its stooping too low, forcing issues, your only job is to show and keep yourself interested in him and not Bending your knees to propose or bending your good-ass to play "mama wa kufua" to him --I'm almost certain he doesn't like it especially when he hasn't asked you......raise that bar! say no to self inflicted-slavery!... Okay, if you MUST prove you're a wife material, just do the dishes and wipe the table and sit your ass and talk, get to know each others second names for Pete's sake!
Remember just because he muttered a "thank you for doing my...laundry" Doesn't MEAN he Loves you, Wants you at his house unannounced or he appreciated it. Thank you is just that. On a serious note, if you are not at least shacking up together, don't bother playing wife to him by laundry else, you'll remain as such "His Laundry woman"
© Njoki,TheGood_BadGal!
#TeamNoBullshit!
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